DS (4) has just been diagnosed with ADHD and a mild ASD. I am struggling to think about the future.
The summer holidays are looming and I just feel very trapped and isolated. I joined some groups on Facebook for people with kids with similar conditions and all everyone talks about is how amazing their kids are and how blessed they are to have this opportunity to raise a special child.
I am an awful person because I just don't feel that way. I haven't felt proud of my DS for ages. He is so aggressive, rude and violent. He ruins anything nice we ever do with his behaviour. How can I see this as anything but a curse?
I hate going out anywhere with him, and at home he's horrible. I don't drive (though I'm learning) and I can't take him on a bus (also have a 2yr old) as he just lays on the floor and shouts about how he's going to stab people.
This diagnosis is new, so perhaps it's the shock. DH works all week, but tbh, his presence at home makes DS worse. It's like he sees a challenge to his authority. I don't really have anyone to help out with looking after him as my mum works full time and DH's family live far away.
I just wanted to ask if everyone feels this way at first, and whether the stage where I think he's amazing will come later. I know it's awful and I would never admit it to anyone face to face, but a year of this, 6am to 11pm every day has made me wonder if I even love him any more.
Please don't be horrible to me, I don't know who else to talk to about this. Most of my friends say they think ADHD is "over-diagnosed" or that something terrible must have happened to him to make him want to be so violent.
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Sahkoora · 15/07/2013 08:17
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