Just need to vent.....get head straight before writing to school.....
DS school introduced a positive reinforcing reward system in week 2 of term 5. We had no idea and DS was consequently confused about how it worked and it caused problems. We had reservations about how they were implementing it, using peer pressure to support better behaviour as the golden time earned by DS (and one other child on SEN register) was given to all the children. It singled him out, using a system that has been tried before and failed (reward systems not generally successful away as DS not thinking about consequences when he acts and not fussed by what others say he should do) Never-the-less we went with it. He now understands it and is proud when he gets golden time stickers and enjoyed having the golden time at the end of the week.
Today, the week before half term they changed it to a punitive system of loss of golden time when behaviour is not acceptable. I happened to be in school this morning talking about the school's data for request for SEN assessment. DS was sent out of class on an errand (usually when he is getting distressed they do this to give him a change of scene and he's forgotten it by the time he gets back) . He saw me and clung to me saying how he is not getting all his golden time and its not fair. clearly distressed and confused, refused to go back to class without me.
Even then, no-one thought to mention the change so I could help him understand. By the end of the day, after a few refusals and not so good behaviour DS had lost 5 minutes of golden time.......he went ballistic, was uncontrollable and totally beside himself.
Positive reinforcement with golden time is in his behaviour plan. They are very aware that DS does not deal well with rule changes, and gets confused easily. They now know he is incredibly sensitive to negative reinforcement....punishment does not work.....continue if you want a full blown melt down.
If they had let us know this is what they were planning, we could have prepared DS for this change, and also let them know what level of hell they were inviting by doing it.
Well done everyone on that one.... is there an emoticon for utterly demoralised and pissed off?
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..they did it again....change for change sake - inevitable moan.
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TICKLETUMBLE · 20/05/2013 19:37
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