What would you do??

[inappropriatelyemployed]

OK, bit of a problem.

A new family arrived at DS school. From same county as us. Put their daughter in the school without putting her on the roll while they were going through the statement process. Kid was in school full time and freaking out. Parents left staff to cope even though kid wasn't on roll and school had no support/TA for her. Just wanted evidence for statementing so two months later, pulled her out of school once statement was about to be issued.

They started to ask me to take their DD home a few times and she had tea here. Lovely girl. Just not coping with school. Parents always late to pick her up and then stayed hours talking through their issues.

Problem is family have now become a bit of a pain. Dad turned up on my doorstep at 7 last Friday to 'chat'

They email me late at night and have twice tried to ring me way past 9pm. I screened and avoided them.

I am really not a 'rules' person and would help anyone but they are taking the piss,They know I have DS out of school and I feel they just took advantage of DS's school.

I really don't want get dragged into their weird world. What should I do?

[inappropriatelyemployed]

Thanks. I suppose I mention school etc because I don't want to get dragged into whatever they are up to. They have been rude and difficult with school staff and I have a good relationship with school. I just don't want to get involved.

But the lack of manners is a deal breaker!

[StarlightMcKenzie]

What zzzzz said. Anyway, why weren't you watching Politician's husband after you pointed it out to me and subsequently tied me up for an hour 3 weeks in a row?

I'm not as organised as you I don';t think, so I lose friends all the time unitentionally but just not responding or getting back. Non-response is very effective and disappearing people whether you intended the outcome or not.

[StarlightMcKenzie]

And if their manners are that bad, then you really don't need to worry about yours. They probably won't notice anyway.

[inappropriatelyemployed]

Was watching politicians husband - Tis the beauty of the ipad or the sad side of the ipad. Can type and watch TV!


Thanks. I will just ignore and they are certainly not friends - I barely know them but have tried to help them- but turning up on my doorstep is a bit worrying

[ouryve]

And you've just jogged my memory that I owe a friend an email, star.

The only calls DH and I accept after about 8pm, unless arranged, are our parents. And they know not to call, then.

[StarlightMcKenzie]

Oh I never answer the phone either. If I wanted to speak to whoever it was, I would have called THEM right?

[inappropriatelyemployed]

What about when they start turning up!! Silly problem but one I've never encountered before which probably demonstrates how odd the behaviour is!

[StarlightMcKenzie]

Just say,' sorry I'm making dinner, bathing the kids, working to an urgent deadline, late for an appointment etc.

OR, just don't answer the door at all, even if it is obvious you are in. You have no legal or moral duty to open when someone knocks. Why is that any more rude than them turning up unnannounced?

[inappropriatelyemployed]

I think I'll have to be rude actually because they won't pick up vibes. He turned up last week and invited himself in even though we were putting kids to bed and unpacking shopping.

We made very obvious hints about it not being a good time. OK directness it will have to be.

[StarlightMcKenzie]

I don't know that it is that rude tbh.

Some people, for some reason, just can't pick up the social cues.

DS will get a lot further in life it people can just tell him what they want him to do, and you know what, he'll be relieved, not take it to heart.

[StarlightMcKenzie]

I suppose so, in our current culture anyway.

But perhaps it will become less so the more social media is used and the busier people are getting perhaps.

However, 'I'm afraid I don't have time to speak to you right now, please don't come to my house unnanounced' isn't quite the same as 'fuck off' is it!?

[inappropriatelyemployed]

I know what you mean Star and that is partly my concern that the dad in particular doesn't realise for some reason he has crossed a line.

Mum is much more savvy but she lets him do all the interacting.

[inappropriatelyemployed]

Perhaps a polite email setting out good times to contact someone might help.

[StarlightMcKenzie]

'Man up, and don't be a push over you wimp. '

Said to the gal that is JRing the LGO........ha ha ha!



Aw hope you sort this IE. Just compare this thing to your REAL problems and how you deal with it will become unimportant.

[inappropriatelyemployed]

Yes I know but it is funny how these things can intrude on your very limited private space in a really intrusive way.

I didn't want to be an arse zzzzz if he didnt really get he was being out of order (but he has a wife so surely she would have pointed this out) but you are right I shall be man up!!

[ouryve]

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