DD has possible PDA. I am waiting for an appointment with CAMHS (GP referral) and paediatrician (school nurse referral).
School are well aware of DD's issues, which include sudden mood changes, headbanging, chanting, embellishing events and quite often making things up. DD seems to have difficulty distinguishing between fantasy and reality.
She has been observed by EP, and the EP's findings were that DD is a very complex little girl, who has very high levels of anxiety and uses headbanging to calm herself down.
DD now has a cushion in her class where she goes to headbang safely.
The main issue at school atm is DD's aggression and violence towards other DC and the staff. This includes biting, scratching, kicking, punching etc and as far as school are concerned, nothing sets DD off, nothing at all.
I have asked for DD to be statemented, but apparently, there's not enough evidence to apply for funding yet.
School have recently explained that for the safety of the other DC and staff, if the aggression continues, DD will be sent home for the afternoon. Now they don't want to send DD home, since they think DD will see this as a good thing, and it may make her behaviour worse if she knows she can come home if she is aggressive.
So far, they have only asked me to pick DD up once, but by the time I arrived at school, it was already home time. DD went as normal the following day.
Today, I discovered that in the last couple of weeks, the school have decided to sit DD outside the headteachers office when she has scratched or bitten another child.
DD is sat outside the head's office, but largely ignored, although she is given colouring to do, or something DD will find boring.
Obviously, someone is keeping an eye on DD during this time, but AFAIK, no one is actively interacting with DD during this time.
Apparently this is supposed to teach her the consequences of her behaviour.
The school agree that DD has no understanding of cause and effect, and tbh, I feel very uneasy about this. While I appreciate the other children and staff need protecting from DD's outbursts, I'm not comfortable with their solution, although I have no idea what else to suggest, apart from send her home instead.
Today, DD was sent to sit outside the headteachers office just after lunchtime, and remained there all afternoon until hometime.
So I suppose this is a bit of an AIBU, and do you have any suggestions as to what else the school could or should be doing instead? Or anything I could/should be doing?
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spongebobandpatrick · 09/05/2013 17:53
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