Dinky has gone on a trip, I'm a little worried...

[Dinkysmummy]

I'm not normally one of the mums who worry when their PFB goes on a trip.
Then again dinky isn't exactly a PFB, well she is, just with added awesome and added challenges.
Yesterday we went to see the new school. All was going well... Until... Dinky had just had enough, she started hitting me, grunting and saying "go now". (she seems to regress by 2/3 years when she starts getting like this) I told her she needed to stop hitting me or she would lose her priviliages which included her rescue rangers DVD.
Then some builders were going through the door release and dinky managed to squeeze through. I managed to stop her going out of the main door so she tried to open the window instead. I was picking up my bag and she ran out of the door. The senco followed, we managed to get her back in only for her to run out and straight into the road.
When I finally calmed her down she said she wants to go home, then refused to walk.

This morning she was ok, but I could see that anything coud set her off. I put her wrist reins on her this morning. When we got to school I asked them if they wanted to keep her wrist reins as they are going to a farm. They said they'd have to ask the HT if they were allowed to use them.

If the HT says no, I'm worried what will happen if she runs off. I mean dinkys class this morning had: CT, 2 TAs, senco and a parent helper (don't know if they are all going). I'm guessing either dinkys favourite TA or the senco will be with her. I think it will be senco as I'm not sure if the TAs going have team teach training as dinky will have to be restrained if she runs off.

So I'm a little worried...

[EllenJanesthickerknickers]

Oh, Dinkysmummy. Strong , keep busy. Have a look on chat or AIBU and laugh at the NT problems people worry about. They'll look after her. 3 o'clock will come around quickly. ((((Hugs))))

[Dinkysmummy]

Thanks Ellen

I'm supposed to be moving boxes into the cupboard and getting the furniture into easier to move places for the carpet fitters tomorrow but I keep procrastinating. It's bad really. I should also be painting dinkys room, sorting her DLA form out, writing an appeal to CCG and sending back the SN activities sheet for next term... Nope all I'm doing is worrying about dinky.

[meaty]

As you will know from the other thread my son is yet to go on a school trip and when he does I am picking him up at lunchtime but I will still worry what happens up till the point I pick him up.

I hope that Dinky comes home and tells you the bits of the day she enjoyed the most. What animals were there and anything funny that might have happened. Even just a smile tells you everything is ok.

My son is also a runner so I have focused my mind that if he runs off on a farm it will be in a field and the most damage that will happen is if he treads in a cow pat. I will happily clean his wellies of cow poo as long as he has enjoyed the overall experience. I will still worry but so will every parent of every child just we will all have different worries.

[Dinkysmummy]

So I get to school.

"can we have a quick word please?"

She only ran off once (cow moo'd right in her ear and she got scared), they said that they used the reins after that as they couldn't have her do it again.
She enjoyed the tractor ride but tried to jump off when it was moving, which she had to be told was extremely dangerous.
Other than that she enjoyed spending the day with her favourite TA.

So we got home with a few mini tantrums on the way (will be so happy when we dont have to get 2 buses home!). We now have the smurfs on DVD, some cheesy pasta and banana custard for desert!

Thanks for all your replies x

[2old2beamum]

Glad she had a good day. Now stop worrying

[Ineedmorepatience]

Sounds like a successful day dm, it is nerve racking putting your trust in others but you have done it and next time hopefully it will be easier.

Well done you, have a and/or chocolate and try to chill

[Dinkysmummy]

Thanks ladies..

2old2beamum... Do we ever stop worrying?

Ineed....It wasn't so much putting my trust in others... It was how she would be given the impending school move, what happened at the new school yesterday and how she was on the way to school.

It's done now

[Ineedmorepatience]

Yep thats what I meant though, that even when you know you havent had the best start to the day or that the day has the potential to go wrong. We still have to be able to trust others to look after our children.

It is one of the things I still find really hard although I am getting better as Dd3 is becoming more capable of being independent.

Glad it went ok

[sammythemummy]

dinkysmum God I wouldve been exactly like you/1 My dd also has a tendency to run off sometimes and school trips are definitely something that Im apprehensive about and she hasn't even started nursery!

[Dinkysmummy]

I get your point INeed... It's hard enough sometimes leaving them at school when they are more likely to have meltdowns or put themselves in a danger by running off. It is more so when they are outdoors and don't have the door release system, the locked gates or the 6ft high fences. I put my trust in a school that no longer wants her there, hoping they would keep her safe and allow her to have a good time with her 2 friends that she will miss.

Sammy, I don't think I would have been as worried if it wasn't for all the other issues at the same time. Also if the teachers had told me how they were going to go about supervising her, if I wasn't so preoccupied with the amount of other things I have going on I probably would have asked to put my mind at ease.

Lesson learned, she was ok, enjoyed herself and passed out earlier than she has for a while!