Not strictly SN, I know, as she's NT. I just don't know what to do with her. She's 3.11 now. She's lovely, clever, charming with peers and adults alike. Ahead of her years in all areas of development. So far so good.
She's incredibly controlling. If I say the wrong thing at the wrong time, the whole game is ruined. If I don't let her do what she wants, when she wants it, she goes into meltdown. If I don't notice that she did something at the exact moment she did it, ditto. If I breathe in the wrong direction, it seems.
At school today, waiting for DD2, she started playing with a boy's scooter. I watched, and could see he wanted it back. I walked across the playground and said 'DD3, that boy would like his scooter back.' She said he had let her use it. She said 'do you want it back?' the boy said yes. She gave it back, then pushed me.
We went to the classroom, DD3 started playing with the sand. The same sand I've told her 100 times that she is not allowed to touch. I asked her 3 times to come away. I told her that if she didn't come away, she wouldn't be able to hold our chicks. She blatantly ignored me, dodging me to get to the sand box. Every time I came close, she dodged away and laughed. I finally told her that when we got home, DD2 would have two packets of haribo sweets and she would have none.
Sweets are the only thing she cares about.
She proceeded to throw handfuls of sand at me, then I picked her up. She was bucking and writhing in my arms. Eventually, promised to be sensible. As soon as I put her down, she was pushing and hitting me. I held her firmly by the hand, no words, no eye contact. She dropped to the floor several times on the way back to the car, then accused me of dragging her to the ground. I managed to get her back to the car.
I was clipping her in her seat and she spat at me. Several times.
I've come home, given DD2 the two packets of sweets. DD3 has gone wild. Hitting me, kicking me, pushing me, shoving me.
I've put her in DD1's room to cool down (it has a stairgate on) but she keeps climbing over.
She's got balls of brass
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Can I vent about DD3?
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