Our SN area is not a substitute for expert advice. While many Mumsnetters have a specialist knowledge of special needs, if they post here they are posting as members, not experts. There are, however, lots of organisations that can help - some suggestions are listed here. If you've come across an organisation that you've found helpful, please tell us. Go to Special needs chat, Parents with disabilities, SN teens, SN legal, SN education, SN recommendations.

Come be an angry head with me!

(102 Posts)
frizzcat Wed 20-Mar-13 09:56:43

It's nothing in particular just the usual little things that sets ds apart. Plus I'm really tired, plus tired of running after dd 2 who thinks everytime I say " come on this way" it's an invitation to play chase.
And I wish ds ASD would just piss off and leave my little fella be.
Come join the angry thread and get it out of your system - wish there was a scary head emoction

autumnsmum Wed 20-Mar-13 12:28:18

To portage worker please don't tell me to be honest with dp about choice of school on dds statement however much he and I disagree I wouldn't lie!

UnChartered Wed 20-Mar-13 12:32:55

am apople appoplec appop fucking raging in my socks after that meeting angry

no written evidence at school = almost instant refusal for SA?

not on my nelly <ramps up the ante>

i am the parent of a child with ASD, SPD and possibly PDA - HEAR ME fucking ROAR!!!!

LimboLil Wed 20-Mar-13 12:34:32

Thank you trout spout, I am drinking it right now :-)

LimboLil Wed 20-Mar-13 12:55:18

Oh god I'm off again. I mean seriously, THANK GOODNESS the school called me in. Otherwise my silly little head might not have thought of thinking about the future ad I may have filed my son's statement away in my make up drawer or used it for noughts and crosses.

frizzcat Wed 20-Mar-13 13:00:17

Limbos arse person on the list - subsection patronising bastard
In addition to "person she lives with" - subsection ostrich bastard

Wooly's dh on there - with advisory note that wooly should take herself of one day, one weekend as Frizzcat feels sure dh will "get it" then. Frizzcat also did this after crying to dh that I was at the end if my tether and he wasn't helping. Dh response was: "we'll everyone else does it" angry. After his little day alone, he's a lot more sympathetic

frizzcat Wed 20-Mar-13 13:04:38

Autumns portage worker added - also under subsection patronising bastard
Think we need to add limbos make up drawer to the ostrich subsection as its clearly stealing things and hiding them, so that limbo doesn't have to worry about them. . That way she can just think about daffodils and kittens ... The bastard!

LimboLil Wed 20-Mar-13 13:08:16

I would go for a run but my eldest is at home with the lergy! <beats unsuspecting cushion in rage and frustration of the sheer effin unfairness and patronising bastardness of it all>

Reecieroo Wed 20-Mar-13 13:09:14

Wooly I have no tips I'm afraid :/

I do fantasise about tying ds with ropes and securing him in the car with those bungee hook things?! But alas I am informed that this is frowned upon as is drinking before 9am humph!!!

Frizz can I please add Thomas the tank engine to the bastard list if I hear the theme tune one more time today I'm going to spontaneously combust!!!

frizzcat Wed 20-Mar-13 13:13:44

Thomas the tank engine added - under subsection should be smelted bastard

Unchartered - thought long and hard about your submission and have decided to add the entire school, that way we cover all manner of bastardness

grin limbo

lougle Wed 20-Mar-13 13:17:43

I'm all out of rant, but I had an interesting moment today. I walked into the local convenience store, just as the DD's old HT walked out. We both exchanged 'hi's.

I felt....nothing hmm

UnChartered Wed 20-Mar-13 13:18:35

why thankee kindly frizz

i've been fantasising of a SN section room 101, but basically it's a huge mouli style grinder, that is operated by turning a huge handle

i think this would be most useful (been reading up on my sensory processing, also therapeutic [nods] )

anyone mind if i grind some of this thread into it?

frizzcat Wed 20-Mar-13 13:19:43

Grind away

frizzcat Wed 20-Mar-13 13:30:24

Lougle - HT added regardless of absence of rant, added bonus not being removed as they'll never get the chance to redeem themselves. Subsection: permanent bastard

I wonder could I get paid for my listing capabilities?

NoHaudinMaWheest Wed 20-Mar-13 13:33:01

Can I add GPs surgery I need to make 4 different appointments 1 for me, 1 for Ds 2 for Dd and their computers are down. And I've only just worked up the courage to make the one for me.
Dd's physio whom I have called 3 times in the last 2 weeks and still hasn't replied.
OT dept Dd is on a year long waiting list for what is actually an acute problem. Why can't they have a better system for (hopefully) short-term, straightforward problems.

My rant would sound pretty much the same as it has been since my ds started at a new school, but I am just tired from the worry, and have to fill in dla form, but we have moved house/LA & everyone involved is new to
me and ds. My happy boy has changed so much in the last few months.

His teacher seems to have no idea how to handle a tiny incident, he actually phoned me to ask if I would come and take ds home - after he knocked over a wet floor sign in the corridor(unsupervised due to lack of support, no idea if it was intentional or an accident), ds got upset with children telling on him, refused to apologise, or go for lunch. So could I come and get him?

Well no I couldn't! In all his time with his last school (5 yrs, 2 of them in nursery attached to school) never once did anything like this happen, because ds had support, proper, structured, caring support. It isn't fucking rocket science.... Sorry, didn't think I had the energy to rant, parents' evening tonight, bring it on!

TICKLETUMBLE Wed 20-Mar-13 13:59:34

Can I join in? It might be a bit pathetic, but it got my goat..........

IEP document given to me today - target 1 was to 'complete 2 tasks per day'.
Simple, specific, measureable and achievable .Lovely. We wont worry too much about whether its reasonable (no idea how many tasks are set a day to know if 2 is a big ask, or small potatoes) or timely (have not stated when they think DS should be able to achieve this). They even defined what kind of tasks and included strategies for making sure DS was in the right frame of mind to do the task in the first place. Excelent stuff!

Yes indeed...........and then it all falls down,... the measure of success bit did not include counting how many tasks has been completed in a day .........!!
So how are they going to show improvement or success in that task?

AMIBU to think its not rocket science?

UnChartered Wed 20-Mar-13 14:29:05

hold on a minute

you know those caring carrots?

that PP woman has left one...i've got an aptitude for working with ASD at home!

well thank fuck for that, seeings how my DD has ASD angry

<grinds carrots>

frizzcat Wed 20-Mar-13 14:59:05

Right:
GP added - useless bastard subsection
OT added - see above subsection
Computers added- subsections pointless bastards
IEP - resource wasting bastard (specifically wasting paper)
Mini-taps CT added -subsection another useless bastard
Carrots - subsection hateful bastards

frizzcat Wed 20-Mar-13 14:59:47

Oh and.....
Rocket science - superior bastard

TICKLETUMBLE Wed 20-Mar-13 15:54:08

'like' button needed for frizzcat listings!!!!

Reecieroo Wed 20-Mar-13 16:13:13

Met previously mentioned hv and now she is a bastard with a face, totally useless asked me what I felt I needed and suggested to her that possibly a play therapist and salt would be nice and she agreed so is a useful bastard but still none the less a bastard for previous mentioned reasons!! And the fact if it wasn't u lovely mnters I would not of known to suggest such referrals :/

frizzcat Wed 20-Mar-13 16:47:59

No ree - she's still useless as you fed her the info

frizzcat Wed 20-Mar-13 16:48:24

But glad you some action

LimboLil Wed 20-Mar-13 16:50:40

Subsection request: Cowardly bastard

frizzcat Wed 20-Mar-13 17:48:54

Oh like that one - duly noted

Join the discussion

Join the discussion

Registering is free, easy, and means you can join in the discussion, get discounts, win prizes and lots more.

Register now