Went out last night with a few friends and hangers on, some of whom know my situation and some don't (ds definitely has pda, just waiting for final assessment and diagnosis).
Conversation turns to a child who had done something to upset one person's dd at an after school activity. when the parent questioned this the adult in charge said 'oh, X has aspergers so he probably didn't understand what he has said to upset your dd, I will have a word with him'. The parent was indignant of that and said how she didn't care what was supposed to be wrong with him but she expected that he be made to apologise there and then. Nothing wrong with expecting an apology I know, but this then lead to almost everyone there saying that so many people get these labels for their child to excuse their bad parenting, get benefits, not have to take responsibility. Some children are just 'born bad' and they need 'sorting out'. I had remained quiet throughout this as I didn't want to get emotional but I contested the idea that anyone is born bad I said some children were born with difficulties in some areas. However, I was pretty much shouted down by what sounded like quotes from the daily mail of lazy parents who don't know how to set boundaries and tales of the consequences that they have used on their nt children and 'would work for any child'. I made my excuses and went home but it was a really depressing evening.
Here are some suggested organisations that offer expert advice on special needs.
SN children
How do you cope with 'daily mail' type ignorance.
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