I was really annoyed today. I got the ABA report through that I am paying for but it was emailed at the same time it was sent to school, OT and SLT giving me no time to comment or discuss inaccuracies/concerns with the therapist. I don't find this acceptable do you?
The therapist came in fora second visit last week on a day that DS did not want to go into class. He does this every so often. He gets into a panic about everyone looking at him. He wanted to work outside and arrangements are made for this. He always go back into class the next day. I think part of this is that there are no arrangements to support him in class when he is there, e.g. by allowing breaks.
On the day the therapist came in, his TA was not around - we found out half an hour after drop off that she had a hospital appointment. She had told the receptionist last week but not thought to tell DS. I basically TA'd for him for most of the morning and he was fine. Then the ABA guy decided he wanted to see him in class. I knew this would distress him but I didn't want to look like the indulgent mum so I let everyone try and persuade him without success. I intervened and got him as far as the end of the corridor. He got really distressed about working outside the class as he didn't want people to see him. He wanted to work at another table a few feet away. His teacher said no and he got more distressed than I have ever seen him and although he sat at the table he refused to work. The ABA guy was telling him to do as he was told and do as his teacher asked. He said to me 'I see what the teacher/TA mean about non-compliance' which I got a bit annoyed about as this was a pointlessly engineered confrontation.
I withdrew from the situation with DS in tears. I just thought people would blame me for the upset because I was there. I let him down. Big mistake. He ended up massively distressed and doing a half day. He ended up out of class for two days. Why did I not just tell them all to stop and move him myself?
His TA has been whinging about how he'll never go back if he is indulged. I told her to have faith and today he did. Good as gold. The head agreed with me entirely. He said ask the ABA guy to deal with him rather than teacher and TA.
Instead, the report is circulated to one and all before it is even circulated to me.
The report mentions all the behaviour he saw but gives it no context at all. It was as if DS was just sitting there for a regular lesson outside class and that he decided to throw a wobbly.
It talks of not using the term 'anxiety' and how he will need to do a functional analysis to decide if the bahvioour is anxiety - how can you do that?? and why would it make any difference if it was behaviour you needed to change?
Despite not wanting to use labels, he then talks of tantrums and non-compliance and then all the petty problems teacher and TA have with his issues about sitting on chairs in assembly etc. Stuff that was agreed with the EP and SENCO months ago. It's like teacher and TA just used this as an excuse for a good old moan and he just listened to them.
I feel really let down. There's no bloody way I am paying for an intervention to get him to line up or sit on a chair. This is a child who was out of school last year and who didn't speak to anyone. He has come a long way. I wanted the intervention to skill him with social skills and help him deal with change not criticise him and make him sit on a chair.
I was going to email the multi-disciplinary group with a response but I don't want to be too angry. All the therapists involved are therapists we are paying for so it is not gone to the LA.
Would anyone read it for me? Star, Agnes, sickof, Moonie?
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inappropriatelyemployed · 31/01/2013 20:14
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