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So, the school have threatened me with the legal team

(64 Posts)
lougle Wed 30-Jan-13 14:52:35

After sending the nice email to the Head, I have had an email telling me that if DD2 doesn't turn up at either the new school or the old school tomorrow, she'll pass on the information to the legal team and I'll be fined.

I've phoned the Inclusion Office and told them the situation. They're going to write a note on the database that I've informed them DD2 has a new school place from Monday and is visiting the school tomorrow, that I have bought uniform and am registered on their 'parentmail' system.

She's really going for me, isn't she?

justaboutchilledout Fri 01-Feb-13 21:21:15

good good

Crawling Fri 01-Feb-13 20:15:45

So glad things are going better for you now lougle.

Ineedmorepatience Fri 01-Feb-13 18:46:53

Really lovely end to a very stressful week for you lougle
Glad your Dd2 is settling in and happysmile

EllenJaneisstillnotmyname Fri 01-Feb-13 18:16:33

Blimey, Lougle. I've been doing too much crochet and not enough MN. Well done So pleased for you and DD2. smile

zzzzz Fri 01-Feb-13 18:12:31

Yay!

PolterGoose Fri 01-Feb-13 18:00:47

grin

Ilisten2theradio Fri 01-Feb-13 17:59:55

Such a good ending to your story with the old shool [ smile]

lougle Fri 01-Feb-13 17:53:47

DD2 actually said to me today "Mummy, I have a new friend called x"

She also saw her cousin who is having chemo and so only comes to school sometimes. It was so sweet, they were jumping up and down, hugging in the playground.

tattoosarenotallowed Fri 01-Feb-13 16:42:38

Oh Lougle that sounds so lovely.

PolterGoose Fri 01-Feb-13 13:40:34

How lovely, both the little girl who remembered dd's name and the CM.

oooh, 3 cheers for x

lougle Fri 01-Feb-13 13:13:48

Well, I would have done, if I hadn't been a regular at the SN Tavern.

DD2 was in the playground today and a girl from her new class said her name. DD2 just looked at her, turned around and started using the hopscotch. I heard her childminder say 'don't worry, when she gets to know you she might say hello'. I called DD2 over, said 'x said hello to you, say hello.', then once the girls were stood together I said to the CM 'DD2 isn't so good at the social side of things yet. She doesn't realise that when people say hello, that she should say it back.' The CM was lovely and said 'well x is the opposite, so she'll be kind and help her.'

Oh Lougle! Did you narrowly miss a caring carrotology?

i.e. 'Don't worry, everything will be alright' and then when it all falls apart in the future pretend to have never heard of you?

Phew.

PolterGoose Fri 01-Feb-13 12:39:53

Well, that sounds positive. Hoping dd is enjoying her new school.

lougle Fri 01-Feb-13 12:30:27

I spoke again to Admissions today (dog-with-bone) and happened to speak to the young man named 'Sam' who I spoke to previously. He tried to change his advice and said I may well need to do a late application as 'it relates to another child.' I clarified that it is the same child's application, just a change in where her sibling priority relates to, upon which he said 'they may change it for you.'

I decided this was a bit woolly for me, so I asked him his surname for my records.

It may well be co-incidence, but half-an-hour ago, I got an email which says:

"As you have a change in circumstance that has been notified to us before the administrative freeze date, I have amended the preference order as requested.

<New> Primary School is now listed as your 1st preference school with Sibling criteria."

So, I have it in writing that she is listed as a sibling at new school and it is our first choice.

Unless there are 60 children who are either Statemented, LAC, Have medical/pshychological evidence or have a sibling at the school and live closer than 1.7 miles (we're rural), she's guaranteed a place at new school.

lougle Thu 31-Jan-13 20:36:44

The transport is a non-reason, tbh. Today I was able to get to the school, pick DD2 up at 3.30, walk back to the carpark, get her in the car and drive home by 3.35! We are quite fortunate that our new house is just two (one short, one long) roads away from the new school. I think that actually, it takes as long to get home from the old school (which is only the short road of the two roads away) because DD2 was so much further around the school and the parking was much further away.

I think I'm going to have to rely on the arguments that

a) I have asked to change my preferences just 15 days after the initial deadline and 15 days before the final deadline - this gives them plenty of time to process the change
b) I asked the same day as my DD2 was enrolled at new school, and that change is in itself an exceptional circumstance, as the vast majority of parents do not change their school between 15th Jan and 15th Feb
c) There is an irreconcilable breakdown in the relationship between old school and us
d) To force us to accept the old school place would be tantamount to refusing DD2 a school due to c)
e) No reasonable authority would insist that a parent sends a child to a school they had removed another child from, when they had the means and opportunity to prevent the situation
f) If DD3 is considered an on-time applicant, she is guaranteed a place (criteria 3, only after looked after, statemented and exceptional psychological/medical needs).

MareeyaDolores Thu 31-Jan-13 18:23:50

Work out your timings for doing the two drop-offs and (providing it's obviously impossible wink) then ring or email transport to get them to confirm there's no chance of dd1's bus working out, then quote them.

And blimey, I'm left gasping for breath just watching how fast you move when your mind's made up grin thanks HONK

MareeyaDolores Thu 31-Jan-13 18:19:48

Read page 4 change of address "or other exceptional circumstances". The rules are the same nationally, but different LEAs can vary the criteria for what counts as exceptional... they need to be able to justify it in appeal though. You have timings of dd1's SN school bus after the emergency change of dd2's school today. It needs to be a rare circumstance, as LAs hate setting a precedent for late applications

zzzzz Thu 31-Jan-13 13:58:46

Honk honk. Stop wobbling you're doing fine, brilliant in fact.

I hope it's fabulous.

I honestly can't remember Lougle. I will have a look. I have a child going through admissions too and with one or two complications so did do some good reading at one point.

I think it is 'changes in circumstances' as opposed to 'changes of home address' iyswim, but I think they like to only publish the home thing as it is the most straightforward. Otherwise it looks like it is open to interpretation and they'll have appeals galore.

Possibly for tehnical reasons it can go through as a change of address, from your current address to your current address confused

lougle Thu 31-Jan-13 13:23:58

I've just checked my LA website and they state that only change of home address can be considered between 15th January and 15th February <wibble>

lougle Thu 31-Jan-13 13:21:07

Star - where did you find that? I've just read through the Admissions Code and it isn't there at all?

Walter4 Thu 31-Jan-13 12:45:36

Incredible lougle! So pleased she so excited, be thinking of you both tomo .

I think you played it really well, pointing out a difficulty when it presented instead of going in with a list of concerns that they haven't yet witnessed.

Teacher sounds fab.

15th Feb is the deadline for extenuating circumstances wrt admissions. So hopefully all will be fine with that.

lougle Thu 31-Jan-13 12:25:28

Original Thread

This was never going to be a 'bumbling along to a compromised solution' situation hmm

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