Okay this may be a long one so here goes I have 3 year old twins born prem with hearing problems and developmental delay. The youngest is the worse off when he was born he nearly died and had to be resuscitated. They've been slow to catch up but the gap between them making progress (e.g one might have started cooing followed a week later by the other one) has gotten bigger & bigger we used to be able to time it now I don't know where we are. So lets start this year at beginning I was pregnant with dd & I think everything was fine until we had her she wasn't planned so it was a bit of a shock so I've now got 3 children under 3 & have to say I've struggled a bit. Last week health visitor and family support worker visited and hv was commenting on dd she'd fallen to sleep in bouncer I didn't get her out because unlike other 2 she's a light sleeper and would have then woken and screamed rest of time we don't hear a peep out of her so hv asks about finding time to spend with her and pointed to her and said well that speaks for itself! Anyways back to ds we've ways known he has problems but this year after yet another hearing exam being told he has glue ear and he's still not talking got referred to another hospital where consultant took one look and was on phone saying he had a child possible deafness and syndrome and got us booked in for MRI s ct scans the lot scared the crap outta me be because I think it finally hit home that not only has he got a problem but its probably worse than what we thought so since then we have been back and forth to hospital for testing its looking like he has autism ADHD and possible syndrome we've had all this stress and worry we don't drive (yet) my parents give us lifts and hospitals quite far out then my mum moans at me for having to do it so I feel guilty(and a bit annoyed) then one day in middle of this we get call from social services. A few days before my sister phoned and Asked if I wanted help from social services because they help her etc etc i said 'no don't say anything' and she said ok and was left at that, couple of days later on day I'm supposed to be havi g a caff meeting 2 people knock on door I think there part of meeting so let them in and then find out there from ss they ask me about she throwing an hammer at me, threatening me with a scalpel (I probably don't need to tell you none of this is true) and an Incident that was half true that dh picked des up out of swing in park! (What happened was ss when only a month old was lying in chair and ss nearly stood on her so dh lifted him of chair by placing one hand on his back and one on his front) so then I started crying and this seemed to make themselves suspicious there asking of I need to take kids and go upstairs while they talked to dh (like he's some kind of axe murderer) I said no & they interviewed him & luckily saw through it they visited again then left . so back to hv & fsw so a week after school visited because they start in January & house was in a bit of a state it gets like that sometimes I try to keep on top of it but ss with problems doesn't really sleep much &had a couple of nights were he'd been up nearly all night on top of that we have appointments & home visits dh works nights 6 days A
a week so he's on bed all day sometimes I don't see him at all & I know he's working & he can't help him but sometimes I feel angry at him because it feels like I'm on my own so they visit & house is a mess and then a week ago I have fsw come & tell me they've complained to her! she said well at least they didn't complain to ss ! I told them I'd had a bad couple of days when they came they said there were nappies on the floor! I'd just changed ds's and was in middle of sorting dd out when they came I usually changed all 3 then put them in a bag then put them in the bin! I had just fed dd & was in the middle of changing her when they came so I popped her some leggings has on for quickness
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sshhhitsasecret · 10/12/2012 05:04
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