Yep, only this time the staff have been badmouthing me to him and bitching about me within his earshot. The thing is they know he has radar hearing, so of course he came home and said "Mummy why did Mrs A say X and why did Mrs B say Y?".
Mrs B said - "Ds1, your mummy isn't here and she should mind her own business and let the school do it's job" and a little bit more besides.
He then said it made him feel like there is a war going on and he's stuck in the middle and that the teacher and TA keep asking him questions he doesn't know how to answer and it's making him stressed. He then explained that they are asking whether or not he wants certain provision and he feels they want him to say no, but he doesn't think he should.
At this point I finally lost patience completely, rang the school and gave it to the senco - both barrels!
This time she didn't manage to get round me and I told the whole thing to her straight, from non implementation of the statement, what's not happening that should be, what's happening that shouldn't and the fact that much as the staff don't like me and see me as the enemy, I have no choice but to stay on top of things, because after the school's repeated inability to meet my son's needs and the inumerable times they have failed him I simply don't trust them.
I pointed out that I have never been anything other than polite and reasonable with the school, have always respected all the professionals involved in ds's care and agreed to trial things that I knew wouldn't work for him out of respect for the knowledge and experience of individual professionals, but this really was the final tipping point and enough is enough. If the teachers see me as the enemy, then that is their problem and highly unprofessional, as not only should teachers have the best interests of their pupils at heart, they should welcome parental input to help make their job of supporting dcs easier. If teachers and LSAs listened to parents more, instead of dismissing them as a nuisance or interfering busybodies then perhaps they might learn something about how to handle their dcs. After all parents have known their dcs all their life, whereas these so-called professional have only been failing their needs for 8 weeks. Their tit for tat deliberate avoidance or doing the polar opposite of anything I suggest is damaging to my ds and purely childish games designed to wind me up with no regard for what it's doing to him and I won't have it any more.
She has apparently taken it straight to the head as she said it's too serious for any other course of action. She also wants to have yet another meeting with myself, dh, the inclusion teacher and her boss and all staff involved in ds's care.
I told her I don't think yet another meeting is going to solve the issue, as too much time has already been wasted sitting around talking. We've already had two meetings and nothing has changed, in fact things have got worse.
I've left it that I will discuss the situation with dh and get back to them.
I am beyond furious, but feel a lot better for finally saying it all out loud to them.