Some advice Please!!

[trunkybun]

My DS aged 7 has Dyspraxia. Today he had a school trip to a local animal park. Because he gets tired easily, and when he does so his behaviour suffers I have been keeping everything very low key for the last few days, and even kept him away from a Beavers activity (which he would have loved) because I thought it went on too late for a school night (8pm) All this so he could go on this school trip with the least risk of him getting himself into trouble.

Anyhoo I got 'the phonecall' just before lunch today telling me I needed to pick DS up from the park immediately (is about 20 miles away) because he had kicked a teacher. I actually couldn't go 'immediately' because I had a 3 year old to pick up from pre-school and 2 other 2 year olds to give lunch to (I am a childminder) but I did get there about an hour and a half later. I was met by a sheepish DS, and a VERY disgruntled teacher who in no uncertain terms let me know that she was unhappy that I had not been able to get there sooner, and that she had never had to send a child home from a trip after that sort of behaviour before! It seems that DS had taken against being told to stand in a certain spot, and had kicked backwards against the teachers shin and stood on her foot!! I am very upset by the whole thing, I am sure the teacher thinks that I do not take this as seriously as I should, but in truth when I got the phone call I felt sick and was physically shaking. It seems that just lately DS is unable to control his temper when he is out of his usual enviroment and away from us (he never kicks or hurts anyone at home) he did a similar thing at a party recently.

Next Saturday he has a trip to a theme park with the Beavers that he has been looking forward to for ages, what should I do? I have punished him for his behaviour today by taking away his games console for a week and also computer priviledges. Should I also tell him he cannot go on the Beavers trip?

[avenanap]

That's a toughie. I'd say no beavers trip as his actions were very bad. Did he say why he had to stand on the spot? Did he know the teacher was behind him?

I think it was OTT for them to call you and ask you to collect him though. They should have been able to handle it.

[Bbbee]

no I think he should go to the beavers trip. By exposing him to a situation similar to the one he has been punished for he can show you a change in his behaviour. I would spell it out before hand.

I would also talk to the school if his temper is hard for him to control in different situations. I think they need to understand.

How difficult for you.

[southeastastra]

i think getting you to collect him is a little over the top tbh.