Thought DD1 had been given the ok but apparently not.

[DevilwearsPrada]

When DD1 (almost 5) started reception last September her teacher called me in because she was concerned about her development. Social skills (she would only play with one boy) she couldn't read or write and was a bit behind the others. She asked my permission to call in SENCO which of course I gave.

Before the easter holidays we were called in again to discuss her progress and the teacher was really pleased with her, she had done a complete turn around - socially interacted very well with the other kids, was picking up reading, still had problems with writing and holding a pen properly, but she was recognising most letters and getting number s better (she can count up to 20 anyway) etc. So I was very pleased. She said the SENCO lady wasc oming in on the afternoon they broke up to talk with her (thats how long its taken) but she wouldn't need to talk to us.

So I thought that was it, TBH I always kind of knew they were overreacting a little she's barely settled in before she was calling me saying she had problems. DD1 has always been one of those kids who refuses to be pushed and will do everything in her own time. Which she has shown here. It was the same in nursery they were worried with her progress and then she was fine.

So why when DH dropped her off this morning was he given a letter saying the SENCO lady was coming on Friday to observe DD1 and could we go in at 245 to discuss things with her.

I just feel like they're labelling her when theres nothing wrong with her. It seems like these days if you don't tick all the boxes theres something wrong with you. I mean she's not quite 5 yet I could have chosen to keep her back a year then she would be even more "behind" wouldn't she!

I'm just fed up people thinking theres something wrong with her, I feel like shouting SHE'S FINE LEAVE HER ALONE! I know all about dyslexia as DH has it and I know she doesn't have that.

Grrr just venting really.

[Peachy]

DWP
firstly don't worry about labels- the SENCO has no power whatsoever to affix a label, the absolute utmost she could do is either fill in a form saying what help your DD is getting 9an IEP) or ask your permission to refer to more qualidfied people. labels need to come from apediatricians, SALt etc and theya re in fact very hard to access.

Seconfdly at 5 I think SENCO is being more than a tad over zealous- can't write in September of Reception? And? that's fairly normal, surely? certainly not a sign of anything major ime.

Does the SENCO know about dh's dyslexcia, as there can be a genetic tendency and it might be affecting her reactions to simple non-problems.

At the metting you are quite able to state that you feel there is no issue with your DD, and to keep repeating that if you feel the need.

[DevilwearsPrada]

Thanks for the replies I thought I was overeacting. Well maybe I was a bit but it's nice to know I'm agreed with. I will go into the meeting with an open mind and she what she has to say before I say anything. Then I will voice my concerns, DH is afraid I'll go in all guns a blazing.