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Here you'll find advice from parents and teachers on special needs education.

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"strong indications of dyspraxia AND ADHD" in 7 yr old, help please!

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MissChief · 27/03/2008 18:24

had ed psych assessmt yesterday, although she's not being conclusive, she stated that yes, he has a "specific learning difficulty", it's not merely a matter of bad behaviour/inattention/bad parenting/whatever.. Also, although she woulnd't commit to a label she said overall that he had these "strong indications of dyspraxia and ADHD". Hadn't been expected the 2nd, tbh, although it fits with my frustration all his life at being unable to get through to him, to contain him, to get him to concentrate etc etc. DH much more blase about it currently - saying oh well, they're all different, only a problem if we make it a problem etc. All well and good, but I@m thinking there IS a problem, we need to fac eup to it and parent accordingly,. I feel relieved that it's not my crap parenting to blame! (though have checked that "environmental" factors may be partly to blame, along wiht the dodgy genes of course) . Any tips at all, if you'br stayerf weith me thus far? Had some great support on an earlier thread on dypraixa so thanks in advance!

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MissChief · 27/03/2008 18:59

bump (she says impatiently!). Really new to the ADHd bit and rahter thrown, scared by it. any advice much appreciated. dh want s to tell no-one, not even school for fear of future bullying, stigma etc. ONly happy about dyspraxia bit being mentioned ot school. god, I feel bit alone in this, thank goodness for MN to "talk to". Have checked out a number of websites already, v useufl, am wondering about stopping the EyeQ (havning thought it had been a GOOD idea)

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MissChief · 27/03/2008 19:39

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morethanmum · 27/03/2008 19:42

i will ask my friend who is a nutrionist about adhd. we had a heated conversation about it once...

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MissChief · 27/03/2008 19:43

thanks - been heated myself before (in ignorance) - he's alwatys had a home-made, orfganic , additive free diet, oh the irony!

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morethanmum · 27/03/2008 19:45

don't worry. is it a definite diagnosis? obv its scary because of all the bad PR. How shall i let you know what she says?

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MissChief · 27/03/2008 19:46

sorry, hope i din't sound off, just overwhemled by it all and hate the stigma attahced along wiht lots of people's ignorance. I'm aware that many seem to blame it on poor parenting of one sort or another.

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foxinsocks · 27/03/2008 19:47

hello

I don't know much but didn't want to let your thread disappear.

Ds has a lovely friend with ADHD (and dyspraxic traits though I don't think he's had dysp officially diagnosed). He did have a helper at school but doesn't need one anymore.

I think it is important to keep the school in the loop as it will probably mean he has an easier time of it rather than a harder time!

I think you need to steer away from the blame and sit down with dh and have a conversation about how best you can help ds, maybe? I think his initial reaction is understandable though and maybe he needs a bit of time to get used to it?

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morethanmum · 27/03/2008 19:52

agree v ironic - easy to blame yourself, i think the press has a lot to answer for re: stigmatising adhd/ parenting etc. texted friend, will let you know - she was v good on dairy allergies. x

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morethanmum · 27/03/2008 19:53

just thought - you should get somethimg in writing, no? We do after speech therapy/ heart appointments etc. might be easier to digest on paper.

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MissChief · 27/03/2008 19:54

thanks, that's kind! School have been supportive re likely dyspraxia, v much so but dh wary of telling them yet/at all about ADHD as teacher, tho lovely, tlaks v openly about these things with parents around, last thing we wnat.

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MissChief · 27/03/2008 19:55

thanks, MTM, yes, we're going to get follow up detailed report.

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SparklePrincess · 27/03/2008 20:20

Hi, My dd has recently been assessed by CAMHS who say she has ADHD. It hardly came as a surprise to me as ive always known she was different. As a baby she would wriggle constantly in her car seat & is so distracted by anything & everything. The next step for us is an ADHD specialist is going to monitor her at school, then meet with us to discuss options about medication.
I also think she has Dyslexia (these conditions often go hand in hand apparently) & will have to start badgering the school to assess her for that.

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MissChief · 27/03/2008 20:37

good luck, sp - we got ref to private ed psych, really helpful. not hqad contact w camhs yrt.

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TheMatrix · 01/04/2008 11:16

Hi MissChief

Firstly, I believe there is much evidence 'for' using Omega 3 - BUT go to a company like Healthspan (0800 73 123 77) for St Clements Cod Liver Oil (no it does not have the foul taste) - it is a fraction of the cost of EyeQ (I am just a parent of a Autistic girl - no connection to Healthspan!!)

Your concerns/acceptance of problems is quite normal. Who wants to believe their child is anything less than outstanding - you know what I mean. However the earlier you can accept there could be a problem and get independent assessments to confirm/disprove the better. All these 'problems' are far easier dealt with early. Trouble is the information from schools is not always 'unbiased' and generally results in inaction for years - when far more action is needed to 'catch up'.

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MissChief · 01/04/2008 14:43

hi there, yes I've just ordered some "vegepa", high EPA, no dha, meant to be better but have also just read Guardian's "bad medicine" column which is v critical of the reasearch into this. ADHD seems to be even more of a minefield than childbirth - v controversial, loads of opposing views, no "right" answer. Just trying to plough through it all and make up my own mind.