Hi, and thank you for taking the time to read this!! My son is 9 and is at last (after a long wait) going through the process of diagnosis for autism. He has been seen by paed's, ot's, spch th, etc etc and after a lot of pushing has eventually been accepted for the diagnosis stages. At the moment he is in mainstream primary, and has a full-time one-one,(which has very recently changed to a new person). I feel the school are very supportive in some ways (eg supplying a one-one, and keeping me up-to-date on the goings on) but not in others. A lot of problems are happening at the moment, but they never seem to look at the 'core' problem that instigated it in the first instance. eg: he has very poor balance, motor perception of which they are aware as he has had a diagnosis of 'damp' syndrome..... yet they try and get him to participate in gymnastics (of which he finds humiliating as he can't do things other children find simple....rolly pollys etc). So he has to sit dressed in gym kit and watch the class do these things, knowing he can't...... which obviously frustrates him. To me the simplest solution would be his one - one do something different with him when the class do gymnastics???? is this too much to ask???? well it seems it is. This hapened yesterday, he was asked if he wanted to join in, which he declined....so was told ok you don't have to. He took himself off and started getting changed back into his school clothes back in his classroom. his one-one approached his teacher to ask if she had let him leave the room, and was told no, so one-one went looking for him. (where was she when he left the hall?????) found him in classroom attempting to get changed (of which again he finds very difficult and time consuming) and told him to return to hall. He refused as he was getting dressed, so one-one got teacher who got him back in hall. To him he logically thought I have been told I do not have to participate so why am I in gym clothes????. In there eyes this was wrong.
Obviously this upset him, he returned to hall. Fell out with his one and only friend, as he was trying to console him but my son needed his space. This went on for a while...... I was informed him and his friend got back to class quickly and by the time his one-one and teacher had returned he was holding scissors asking his friend to leave him alone or else he would stab him.
I appologised sincerely to his mum (who I look at as a friend), and she has reasurred me not to worry. I have explained over and over to my son that this is totally unacceptable, and he understands totally now.but said he couldnt get him to leave him alone.
I am sure this will not happen again, but still put part blame on the situation before....does anyone agree with me???/ have any suggestions on what to do next. I feel like removing him from school and home tutoring (even though I have an 18mth at home and it would be very difficult)
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clarisa · 10/01/2008 14:31
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