homework troubles

[bambu]

ds2 (year5)has been assessed as being at 'high risk' of having AS, does not have a dx. Has always been difficult to get him to do homework, but we usually manage with a lot of persuasion. He has not hit it off with his new teacher who is very authoritative and has been shouting at him a lot. Last week his teacher asked him to remove a card band from his wrist (from swimming.) Ds always gets attached to this sort of thing and usually wears them till they fall off. Ds said he was trying to take it off without tearing it, but teacher said he was fidgeting and cut it off with a pair of scissors. Ds cried. Teacher shouted at him that 'his work is more important than a piece of paper.' As soon as ds came out of school he told me about this, he usually tells me nothing about school. He is still upset about it and is talking about it.
Anyway, today he has decided that he will not do his homework this weekend as his teacher cut off the band. I have turned off the PC etc but he is adamant. He says he will tell him himself tomorrow! What should I do? Just send him in to face the music and make an already difficult situation worse?

[Niecie]

Does the teacher know about him being assessed for AS as his behaviour was a insensitive if he does. The teacher needs to understand that AS children get slightly obsessed with things and that although it may be annoying he needs to be patient. I don't think he acted very well tbh.

Not really sure what you should do tomorrow though. I think you might need to have a word with the teacher yourself since your son is so upset and, if left to his own devices, sounds like he might well go and give the teacher a piece of his mind which wouldn't be good.

Is DS having more assessments or have they left you with half a dx?

[bambu]

Thanks niecie - amazingly I managed to get him to do it - I'm so relieved! The teacher should know about him, if the records have been passed on etc. I don't know if he'll have any more assessments - it's a wait and see situation really. The frustrating thing is that his teacher last year had no problems with him at all, he handled him really well and he made loads of progress.

[Niecie]

Well done for getting your son to do his work. It is so frustrating when they won't do their homework, isn't it. The amount of time my DS can spend arguing about it is way beyond the amount of time he would actually have to spend doing it - it is such as waste of energy. He is 7 so doesn't get that much now but I am dreading the teenage years when they have to do loads every night.

If the school is aware of your ds's assessments you would have thought the teacher should have been a bit more sensitive. Do you think that you will still mention it? The guy sounds like he needs a bit of a reminder.