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Really worried about DS starting secondary

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Zazzabeans · 01/09/2014 19:45

DS nearly 12 has a range of problems, including cerebral palsy, learning difficulties, suspected autism and global developmental delay as well as social and general anxieties.
He is starting yr 7 tomorrow, he thinks because everyone was nice in the transitional week back in June, that this is going to be the same always.
I have not slept proper in the last 4 nights worrying and crying.
I feel so sorry for him, bullying has never been an issue in primary.
His problems affect him in so many ways and he is unable to do things like others take for granted.
I have spoke to the senco and know the school are very anti bullying but I can't help feel like this.
He knows he can't do things like others and it's making him upset knowing that he can't run as fast as others, or doesn't understand things like others.
I'm crying as I type this because I can't bare to think of him being bullied

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marne2 · 01/09/2014 19:54

Sending lots of hugs to you. My dd1 ( Aspergers and hypermobility ) will be starting next year and I'm already anxious so can understand how you must be feeling.

Does the whole school go back tomorrow? Schools here just have the year 7 and six formers go back tomorrow and then the rest of the school on wed, meaning they get a quiet day to find their way around.

Hope all goes well for your ds and he settles in quickly xxx

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cansu · 01/09/2014 19:59

I would urge you to maybe make contact with his form teacher after a few weeks, even if it is just to meet him or her and ask that they keep a close eye on how he is coping. I have two dc with asd and am also a teacher by the way!

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springlamb · 01/09/2014 19:59

I can't make it any better for you, but I can tell you - I wish wish wish I had been brave enough to do what you're supporting your child to do.
Ds (cerebral palsy and Aspergers) starts his Access to HE course next week, he's 19.
He has never been in a mainstream environment. I had the chance at all stages but decided he'd be better for primary and secondary at his special school, and then for his sixth form at a specialist boarding college for students with physical disabilities.
He's back living at home now (which is what we both wanted) and attending a local mainstream college. I am bright and breezy around him, petrified inside.

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Zazzabeans · 01/09/2014 20:22

It is awful :(
He also has hypermobility and is very immature compared to other children his age.
Pic will be seeing his form tutor at some point and as soon as he finds out when he has pe I will be ringing up and making sure he is not forced to do it if he doesn't want to.
He is not statemented so cannot go to a special school.
I'm so worried that I am making myself ill.
The whole school all go back tomorrow also .

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OddBoots · 01/09/2014 20:29

My prem August-born immature ds with ASD and hypermobility is going into Y11 this year, I shared your worries when he started secondary but it really has worked out brilliantly for him, much more so than in primary, with so many more children it's easier to find other pupils with home they have things in common and that makes a huge difference.

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