Your top tips for how to get the school to help

[hillian]

I have an appointment with DD2's teacher soon to ask the teacher if she thinks DD2 has a learning disability. I don't want it to be true, but I think she might and I would rather face up to now and get the help she needs, instead of let it go on undiagnosed and watch her struggle.

Without going into it, I have good reason to strongly suspect the school will be resistant to help. I even had to ask twice to see the teacher just to get this appointment because she knew what i wanted to talk about.

The SENCo is beyond useless, but she's leaving at the end of the term. I thought of leaving it until September, but this has been bothering me since last September, and I don't want to have to wait until Christmas for the next teacher to feel that she knows DD sufficiently well to comment.

Any tips about how to approach this meeting? If the teacher really thinks there is no cause for concern, then I want her to be able to say that, but DD is in the bottom of the bottom group for this and top set for everything else, so it sticks out like a sore thumb.

[hillian]

sorry... i posted in the wrong place so I have posted a duplicate OP in the special needs children section