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Slimming World

Feeling really unmotivated, not sure if I should quit

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Jumblebee · 19/06/2014 10:50

Apologies now if this turns into a rather long post, I have a tendency to waffle.

I started slimming world a few months ago and so far have lost 1 stone. If I had stuck to the plan all the time, this probably would have been a lot more because I know the plan does work for me.

But the majority of weeks I have not really followed it correctly and so have had a cycle of losing lots one week, not so much the next, gaining a few lbs and then following it religiously and losing lots the following week.

I'm not 100% commited to the plan and I'm really struggling to get into that frame of mind.

Before I fell pregnant I lost 4 stone in a year through C25K and MFP. It was a slow and steady wins the race type thing, but I weighed and calorie counted everything. It was a bit tedious but after a year I was used to it and could more or less guess weights and calorie content. Falling pregnant was my horrible excuse to go crazy after a year of discipline and as a result I gained 3 and a half stone :-/

The one thing I hate about SW is the feeling that if I have had a bad week and am going to get weighed and know I'll have gained, I feel ashamed, embarrassed and judged (however all the people at group are lovely). On a few occasions when I've had these bad weeks I have not eaten a thing on weigh in day (class is at 5:30pm) just so I'll lose something or stay the same at least. Which in the end doesn't get me anywhere because I'll binge after the class because I'm starving. I've never been one to believe that starving yourself works, but I do it to avoid the embarassment.

Should I just cut my losses and give up with SW? I don't really enjoy going to the classes but I'm worried that if I don't have the thought of being weighed by someone else I'll fall into the trap of "oh well I'll start the diet on Monday" and will gain all the weight I did manage to lose plus more!

I also don't have the time (or motivation) to start jogging again, even though I miss it a lot. I'm too embarrassed to run in public (I used to run down a lovely backtrack when I lived at home) and we can't afford a gym membership. Plus DP works until quite late and the only chance I'd get to go would be when he got back.

If I quit slimming world will I be doomed to go back to my old ways? I feel like if I just stop showing up to class it's disrespectful to my leader but what do I say to her? "I'm quitting because I'm a pig and can't resist dominoes pizza?"

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Rockchick1984 · 19/06/2014 12:01

Honestly? In my experience if you're not motivated to lose weight, it doesn't matter what diet you try to follow because you just won't stick to it! How old is your baby now? After I had DS it took me until around his first birthday to really get motivated to shift the weight, I tried earlier and lost bits but was similar to how you are now and just wasn't sticking to anything.

You could always stop for a few months, and go back if you start feeling motivated again? Or follow the plan at home now you've got the books etc?

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Jumblebee · 19/06/2014 12:26

Thanks for replying Rockchick, my DD is 10 and a half months.

I totally know what you mean, when I lost weight the last time it was just like a lightbulb moment where I realised "this is what I should have been doing all along" and I was in the right frame of mind for it. It suddenly just didn't make sense to eat the large bars of galaxy and that whole family sized trifle in one sitting (Confused)

I think that's what I'll do, and if I completely fail at least I know when I have the class to go to it will be more motivation. As long as I follow it and don't starve myself just to get a loss that week Hmm honestly I always advocated the power of just eating sensibly and exercising and always thought people who went on fad low calorie diets were ridiculous and here's me starving just so I don't see a gain!

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Passthewinebottle · 19/06/2014 18:41

I think RockChick is right. SW works for me, but more in a damage limitation capacity. I have a busy social life, so spend weekends eating & drinking, & then Sun-Thur being super sensible (unless England are playing :wine: ) but you do really need to be in the 'zone' to get the benefit, although if you do decide to leave, give done thought to how not to gain what you've lost. Good luck xx

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BadRoly · 19/06/2014 18:50

Evening Smile. I lost 2 stone on SW by this time last year and maintained at target until we went skiing in Feb this year.

Since then I have fluctuated between +3 and +8 over target. Last week I made the conscious decision to stop going and beating myself up over it all (after missing a 2nd week). Today (3rd missed week) my SW lady rang to see if I was ok.

Actually verbalising that I'm not in the right mind set and do will be stopping until Sept at the earliest was good. No more guilt or unnecessary pressure and £5 richer per week.

I agree with the PP who said if you're not up for it, no plan/regime/diet will work.

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Midori1999 · 22/06/2014 20:55

I think whether it's a waste of time depends on how happy you are to be maintaining the stone you've lost and happy to pay to go to class to do that and whether you think you'll gain it back (and maybe more) if you stop going.

I've lost 2 1/2 stone since November with SW but had been doing similar to you re losing a bit, gaining a bit, losing it, gaining it etc for a couple of months. However, I knew if I left the group I would gain it all back and then some. I've joined weight watchers instead and following a slightly different plan has motivated me again, although it's my first week. I do miss my old group though, the leader at SW was a great laugh and actually made the class a laugh to attend and for that reason alone I suspect I'll go back to SW before I get to target.

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