Hi Mcdreamy.

Once I fed him he went back down about midnight till about 6 so that was an achievement.

He also slep from 7.45 to 8.45. Long may it continue but i will not get my hopes up!

Thanks for asking

How was last night girly? Did you get much sleep?

Gina Ford worked for me, gave me something to focus on and gave me an idea of what my ds should be capable of. He didn't ever fit with her routines completely, but close enough. I was feeding him all the time and I think he had wind in hindsight (a midwife had told me you didn't need to wind breastfed babies!) so I think I was making it worse by feeding him when he cried.

It's a tough time, but it does pass, I know it seems like forever at the moment. Try to get some sleep, it makes the world seem a different place when you're well rested.

I remember trying lots of things in desperation (whether any of them made any difference I shall never really know!) from a ticking clock in his room to help him go to sleep, putting a hot water bottle in the cot before I put him down- so the mattress wasn't cold.... all suggestions from other people which kept me going!!

Thank you all.

Going to bed now while I can. Will start a diary in morning.

i second mcdreamy. first thing i did for the counsellor was keep a log of sleeping/waking/feeding. with us it was a feeding issue rather than a sleeping issue. from the moment i reframed things around that fact things seemed clearer and i was able to tackle the problem (which was me!)

i know exactly how you feel. it's just dreadful. so if he's used to being fed to get him to sleep then feed him if it'll get him to sleep. there is no magic cure which is going to work tonight - do whatever it takes and don't be hard on yourself. then, when you've had some rest (can dh help out tomorrow so you can get some kip?) formulate a plan to tackle the sleeping issue. i found a sleep counsellor (a brill health visitor, ask at your clinic) worked for me. nothing i hadn't read elsewhere but someone helped me see the wood for the trees and today dd2 is a great sleeper. good luck. i feel for you but it does get better.

It is sooooo hard! Being tired is the bit I don't do very well. I can take on the world but I have to have a nights sleep first.

It might be worth just noting down what happens in your DS's day tomorrow and trying to work out a routine for him from that. Good luck

Sleeping in the day...

Not so much of that either. 30 minutes max 2 times a day if im lucky.

Thanks,

I fed him and he has gone back to sleep for now. I gave him calpol earlier as he is teething and he is nice and cosy with all his covers.

We have no routine really. My own fault. Its just getting hard now. There is only so much longer me and dh can muddle through.

Will have a look at that book in morning

The other thing worth remembering is that he's not doing this to wind you up.

That's what I used to tell myself at 3am

He's either sleeping at the wrong times during the day or it's something else like being hungry, in pain etc.