Oh God, am I temporarily going to have to sleep with Igglepiggle?

She has toys she's semi-attached to but not in a taking to bed sort of way. Worth a shot though.

I think one part of the solution is for her to have a toy she can cuddle at night as opposed to you....take her to a shop and let her choose (somewhere like the Disney store with loads to choose from). you then need to position the toy with you at night then between you and gradually move her from you to it - then you can start getting her in her own bed.

The Foosa and Eyeballs - the ears thing is starting to grate now - I dont even know what pleasure he gets from it, but my niece strokes her mums neck! My nephew (on DH side of family) was also an ear tugger, so it must be a family thing - wierdos!!!

Good luck with it all Eyeballs - just keep chipping away and you will get there in the end!

eyeballs - i hope you have better luck than us , we have co-slept with dd (3.10) since she was a baby as she has atopic eczema & has to be cuddling me to get to sleep , problem is she wakes up on the hour all through the night (and still does) wanting to cuddle , have now gotten to the stage that she lies on my bed with me cuddling until she nods off then i carry her into her own bedroom , then she sleeps until 11pm ish (so 3 hours) then wakes up & climbs into our bed for the rest of the night .
i have tried the "super nanny approach" = no talking just putting her back into her bed but after 22 nights of her screaming blue murder i couldn't take it anymore & gave in & let her back into our bed . hope things go better for you with your dd x

Ok, Eyeballs i can tell you what i did, not sure if it follows the rules or not

DD was 22 mo when ds was born, i had tried getting her in her bed before that but def upped it a gear when he was here (not straight away i think we finally got tough when he was 5 mo and the started to share a room)

I did it gradually, i would sit on her bed, then on the floor, then tidying up in a far corner, then start popping 'to the loo' then started folding the laundry outside the bedroon door

It was slow progress and as she was in a bed there were lots of getting out, with a million reasons, we did also give her an 'iteddy' which she used to listen to nursery rhymes on, but she doesnt use it much now, normally the batteries are flat

Now i have reached a stage where they both get chucked in bed after stories and and i go downstairs with the occassional shout of 'Go to sleep' up the stairs it is quite good

But if the are poorly the both immediately chuck dh out of bed and sleep with me, and it pays a reminder of just how cold/uncomfortable and squirmy bed sharing can be even if they do smell nice when falling asleep

Oh goodness that would be the very very last straw! It's bad enough when it's arms and bosoms (yes, bosoms ) but ears? <cold sweat>

lol at andirobobo's ds having to hold her ears to get to sleep

Oh Eyeballs, your poor thing. I know what you mean. I'm not quite at the stage you are, but I will be soon if I don't get it sorted. Lots of good advice on here so far. I'm going to think about what my plan of action is going to be this week, and then stick to it.

Just jotting this down so that when I come to approach this later this week I have some reminder of how hellish it is in case i'm tempted to think sod it, I'll leave her in here with me...

I have had a good hour's screaming from her as I had the cheek to need the loo and had to untangle myself. She woke up of course and would not stop screaming. I had enough and ignored her for a while but she screamed blue murder. I also put her in a different bed (we're away from home and so have a camp bed next to our bed for overspill). Nothing doing. I actually had to leave the room before I lost it.

She's asleep again now, on me of course but it's got to the stage where I can hardly bear her touching me. Sounds awful doesn't it? This has to be sorted.

We had this problem but cured it

I can sound all smug about it now, but I have been through the hell of very little sleep and a wriggly toddler in my bed who loves holding on to my ears to sleep.

Our sleep history was that DS would always go to bed in his own room but wake up any time between 9 and 11pm, and no amount of settling would work, so the failproof option of shoving him in our bed meant we got some sleep.

Well when he turned two and a little bit I decided enough was enough. We had tried various methods which involved a lot of crying, which was no good to his older sister.

The method we tried that worked was me buying a £10 air bed from Asda and putting that on the floor in his room. When he woke I went in and gave him a cuddle, and then would set up my camp bed. Sleeping next to him where he could see me and I would put my hand through the cot bars and hold his hand until he fell asleep. It took 8 days of me doing this before he slept all night. The air bed was not the most comfy option, but it worked!

We thought the transition to a bed would be another stumblng block but it has been great, no problems - he never gets out!

he now wakes at around 6.20am and I get up around 6.50 (ok more like 7) and I bring him into our bed then for a cuddle and he usually sleeps again, twiddling my ear!!

There is no answer, but you have to have a plan of what you intend to do - small baby steps over a few weeks to set the scene for them, then it doesnt come as too much of a change to them! Good luck!