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11 month old DS won't go to sleep when DH is home

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archiesmummy · 06/12/2006 21:29

Why is this? Has anyone else had this?
My DS used to go to bed around 7 without too much of a problem (teething excluded) but for the last couple of months or so he doesn't go to sleep if DH is at home.
I still BF him to sleep (yes, I know this is not ideal, but very comforting for both of us), but if DH is here he still gets really tired and has his eyes closed, only to wake himself up and be wide awake for the next few hours.

When he is awake he is very happy and plays quietly with his toys so it's not that much of a problem, we are just missing our time alone.

DH is at home most of the evenings so I thought he would have got used to it by now, but not so. Could it be that he misses his dad in the daytime and wants to make up for the lost time? What can we do about it?

I hope there are other people out there who have gone through this..

P.S
Please don't suggest CC, coz I won't consider it.

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poshbutdim · 07/12/2006 14:28

Hiya

If CC is controlled crying (you will have to excuse me I'm new to this!!) then I would suggest you give it a try. It worked with my two DD's I did not want to try myself at first but soon realised that you need time on your own as a couple, so listening to the screaming and paddying for two weeks would be worth it in the end!! The technique is tough and it really is easy to give in but perseverance does pay off.

They are 6 and nearly 3 now and both understand that mummy and daddy have to have their time.

You could maybe get DH to bath and read stories so that DS feels he is spending some quality time.

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FrayedKnotRoastingOnAnOpenFire · 07/12/2006 14:35

Do you have a bedtime routine? Does it involve DH?

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MKGnearlyimmaculateconception · 07/12/2006 15:38

My 16 mo is the same. Sometimes dh gets home before he goes to bed, and sometimes no. When he's not there ds goes right to sleep, no fuss. When dh is there he will cry because he wants to be with dh more. If dh puts ds in the crib it's even worse.

I would let him cry it out, but that's just my style.

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archiesmummy · 07/12/2006 16:10

Thanx for your replies. I'm glad I'm not the only one with a DS who misses his dad.

Really, really don't like the idea of CC, so won't do it.

Frayed, yes, we do have a routine and the only difference between the sleepy and non sleepy days is DH being there or not.

Sorry, got to go wake DS up now or he won't sleep later, if DH is here or not. LOL