15 month old DS needing evicting from my bed and to stop to nighttime feeding.

[Pinkrose1]

He has no self soothing strategies except breast. I can't do the major crying thing but ok to do the sitting next to the cot and slowly moving out of the room. I think still give a comfort feed and put into cot awake?

We are going on holiday at the end of August so if I achieve anything now it will go to pot on holiday as his crying will disturb everyone including older DD.

Would it be a good idea to just put him for his naps into a cot and get him used to that but delay the night time cot until after the holiday? Does this mixed sleep training work or is it all or nothing.

Dreading the tears

[WarblingOyster]

Is there no way of getting him to sleep and then transferring to cot? I know it's not the best way as it doesn't involve self settling but it's what works for me.

[Pinkrose1]

I think I will try that first to see if it works as it sounds less painful than looking at those huge tears rolling down his little face

[WarblingOyster]

Yes, it's definitely easier on the heart strings if you wait until he's in a deep sleep (apparently after about 20 mins of sleep, but you can usually tell), then do a slow transfer, it's not too difficult to keep them down!

[WittgensteinsBunny]

I posted something similar in the feeding section last week. Someone linked me to Dr Jay Gordon's website. He sets out a plan for stopping feeding to sleep. We're trying this at the moment, day 4 and so far, so good. Let me get the link for you...

... Just wanted to add that I don't think you're alone. I'm still bf'ing a lot, just found out I'm pregnant and just can't see how we'll get dd out of our bed. We're working on the self soothing first and then think we'll tackle the co-sleeping / transition to cot.

[WittgensteinsBunny]

Link to my thread with the jay Gordon link too:

link

[Pinkrose1]

Many thanks Wittgenstein

[neilsharvest]

Doing this too. Luckily the feeding seems to have stopped on its own but still massive protests at staying in cot- always ok for first few hours but then I give up after 10 ish ;-(

[grainmum]

same situation here. DS is 13 months. Sleeps in his cot however and most nights goes down awake and falls asleep with me sitting next to cot, sometimes with hands through the bars. if he wakes in the early part of the night can generally be settled with a bit of a pat, but from 3am onwards we're in trouble! just won't settle with anything but feeding, and all the way to sleep. I was getting into a habit of taking him into bed with me for this and feeding him lying down until he drops off but it's taking ages, there's very little swallowing and I get sore nipples. Sometimes I try to refuse - just sit by cot hands through the bars, and there is a lot of wailing. However I usually give in (after 30mins last night). Doesn't make any difference if I pick him up for a cuddle - just screams and fights me

About to move city, husband starting new stressful job - no good time to do this...

[Pinkrose1]

I can see something similar happening. He is very determined but goes off to sleep quite easily with cuddles and bfing but once he has a few good hours sleep under his belt he can take a couple of hours to sleep. Problem is older DD needs to be fresh for school as she is also a very light sleeper and once awake tends to stay awake!

I think I've got to hold out and not give in once I start, but

I am not looking forward to this at all.