I'm desperate and would appreciate any helpful advice from mothers who have been through this.
We have only recently started sleep training with our daughter who is now 18 months old. Before we started sleep training we used to have her lie in our arms until she was asleep and then put her into her cot asleep. She used to be pretty good about going to sleep and would nap for around 45 minutes in the morning (she only has one nap a day) and then sleep at night from 7pm and wake once around midnight and we would then fetch her and put her in our bed where she would sleep until 6am. We do have a set nightime routine and we are sticking to that, the only difference being that we now put her in her cot awake in order for her to fall asleep on her own.
We started the sleep training about 2 weeks ago (they say it should take 3 or 4 nights, yeah right!). When we first started the training I would put her in her cot to sleep and then sit with my back to her until she fell asleep, getting up every now and then to lie her down - she would cry throughout. We had fairly good results with her falling asleep after maybe an hour and on the one or two very good days she fell alseep in 15 minutes and would nap for 2 hours and at night would settle herself back to sleep if she woke up. After a few days I started leaving the room and then coming back to her every 10 or 15 minutes to soothe her (not picking her up) and then leave the room again (she would still be crying). It has now been 2 weeks and she is getting so much worse. She will scream (not cry, scream) solidly for 2 hours or more until either she falls asleep (yesterday I gave up on the nap after having her scream for 2 hours) or I give up. Her little voice is so hoarse after all of the crying and I spend my time crying trying to get her to sleep. She has also started having crying fits during the day and she just doesn't seem her usual happy self. I feel like an awful mother, like I'm breaking her.
I can't listen to her screaming any longer and it is breaking my heart doing this to her. I don't want to go back to what we were doing before but I honestly don't know what else to do. I have even contacted a 'sleep expert' but haven't decoded yet whether I should go ahead with it or not. What can I do?
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JulesOdea · 19/07/2014 11:44
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