Need reassurance

[anotherbitofcake]

I have week old baby. Last night it was a cycle of feed no longer than 5 mins, fall asleep on boob, put down (tried basket first), wakes grumpy, wind, seems hungry, feed, falls asleep after five mins. Co sleep. Pattern repeats each hour. Gets progressively worse around 4am when he does massive poo and voms up loads of milk. Then has actually settled and slept for three hours.
What could I do differently to change this? Should I wind him anyway after each feed? I try the techniques to keep him awake when eating but maybe he's too cosy still then should l make him cooler? Also tried all Moses basket techniques - which have worked, but he does like being in bed more with us and being cuddled.
He has had good nights and settled better so not sure why he's got like this. I may be misreading his cues. He tends to sleep and eat well in day. Just nights which are awful. I'm not sure how I'm going to manage when DH goes back to work as I panic when he's roaring and I haven't had any kip either. TIA

[AnnaMilkMaker]

Firstly, congratulations on your little one!!

I would just keep doing what you're doing. At this age there certainly aren't any answers. Plus they just want to be with you all the time. Cuddles and closeness and boob is the best place!!

Have you tried going out for walks during the day and are you really quiet during the night? Ie teaching bubba the difference between night and day?

You will still be learning what sounds mean what at this age too so don't stress about it all. It will settle down for you.

Remember Mummy knows best so just keep cuddling and feeding them up and it will all fall in to place naturally

You're doing great!! X

[AnnaMilkMaker]

Oh and don't panic if screaming commences. Just remember the only place he wants to be is close to you and the only way he can communicate with you is through crying. It's all they know x

[anotherbitofcake]

Thank u. Am a big worrier. It's like having to learn a new language vv quickly. And v hard to do at 4am. Hoping the pnd stays at bY. V weepy at the mo but hoping it will pass as baby blues xx

[AnnaMilkMaker]

It's the steepest learning curve in the world!! And they don't come with a manual!! Little buggers!! Weepy is normal but if you feel like it could be more than just weepy, mention it to your HV. I got PND which lasted 4 weeks! I worried everybody especially myself as I didn't want to admit I wasn't doing ok. Thought it would all just fall into place but it didn't. It's such hard work but I can absolutely promise you it gets so much easier. Everything becomes second nature and dare I say it "easy". It's true. X stay strong and stay in your pyjamas for as long as you need to!! This is the one time you're allowed x

Big love x