2 year old wont fall asleep in bed...

[luckylady]

I have to put him in his pushchair to get him to sleep....

I have tried the controlled crying when I put him to bed but it doesnt work, If I leave him longer than 3 mins he throws up everywhere.

He has a bedtime routine, and he is (should I say we attempt to )put to bed at the same time everynight, (must admit dont try everynight, but he is put in his pushchair at the same time)

Has anyone got any tips....

The other thuing is we are moving in october so I was thinking of leaving it as it is then really7 trying anything when we gewt to the new house, as it will be a big move for him. Also the heat at the momnet wont be helping his bedroom is at a constant 30degrees.
Any opinion welcome thank you

[jamese]

I would say that the longer you leave it, the harder it will be.

We had a similar problem with our DD. We now almost have it sorted.

After bath, DH reads a story with DD on his lap. Then 2nd story has to be read when DD is in her cot. If she isn't lying down, he won't read it. We started off letting her sit up.

Once story has finished DH lies on the floor with DD. Until recently he would lie there until she fell asleep (sometimes up to 1.5 hrs)....

As I had to do this the other night, I stopped it, but telling DD that I was going to the toilet and would be back in 5 mins. After that time I have to go back in and sit with her again for a few more minutes. then just keep going away for 5mins and coming for another few mins. I keep doing this until she is asleep...

Things are definately improving and hoping that we can soon be at the same stage most people are at, ie say night night and go downstairs...

It will take time, don't rush it. As long as you keep moving forward each week and don't leave it the same as we did.... I am convinced if that we moved the goal posts last year DD would have been ok to fall asleep then (she is now 2.6)..

good luck.

[luckylady]

Thanks for the advice.

I know it is going to be hard work. The big problem aswell is as we livei nCYprus and are wanting to make the most of the few months we have left keeping to a bedtime for him once school has broken up is going to be difficult, as we like to go out of an evening with DD so she can go to the karaoke bars and sing... and dance with the kids on holiday.

As it is so hot trying to eat early is awkward as the hotter it gets the later the kids and us want to eat. DO you thihk as long as we did the sitting with him (not necessarily the same time everynight.) till he went to sleep we would still get the desired effect...

[jamese]

Yes, I don't think that it has to be the same time every night, just the same routine once you get to the bedroom (or in our case bathroom then bedroom)..

Other people will tell you just to leave him to cry etc, but we couldn't do that, DD got sooo upset and then wouldn't leave us for weeks after.

This way is now working for us, but like I said before, just make sure that you move it forward each month (or week) so that you are getting somewhere...

It will take some time for your DS to get used to falling asleep in the bed/cot anyway at first, just it will take some time to get him from falling asleep in the buggy to falling asleep in the bed by himself (we are not totally there yet and have been doing this for months)...

Good luck

[Nemo1977]

Agree about a routine. My DS does not go to bed the same time every night but we always do the same things. He is 2.8yrs and we take him upstairs to bathroom where he has a wash and a wee. Then we go to his room pjs on, little light on, story while he has some milk, then its time to go to sleep.

[luckylady]

Thank you will let you know how we get on....

We have tried a few times over the last few months but i end up giving in as hubby has been away alot latley and I am doing things for a quiet life... naughty I know, I will perserver this time(sp) even though next week he is away again for 10 days....