Quick q regarding Jo Frost cc method

[Steben]

Have been trawling this forum and this seems to have worked for a lot of people and want to give it a go. Have a question, at the moment we don't change DD in the night, do people who do this leave their DC unless nappy leaked/done a poo?

If anyone has any success stories I would love to hear them.

We have to do something I am literally on my knees. DD2 just turned one and was a fantastic sleeper until we started weaning/she got first teeth. For past 6 months she has gradually been getting worse and worse, to the point where she is down at 7 then up on average 5 times a night. She is still having bottle, which I resort to in desperation but even now that isnt enough and something has to give. She is waking DD1 (who is bad tempered and behaved as a result), our marriage is one the rocks as we are both so tired and miserable and I am practically falling alseep at desk and wheel when I am at work. Her day sleep isnt great but she usually averages an hour at some point (usually lunchtime). TIA.

[Steben]

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[Radiator1234]

Hi there
Not sure of the specifics of Jo Frost but with both of my DDs I did controlled crying at about six months when I decided to stop feeding in the night. I recently did it with DD2 at 6.5 months. It went like this. She cried, I went and gave her a cuddle but instead of feeding her, put her back in her cot, she cried, I left the room, I watched ten minutes pass on the clock, then I went in and gave her a cuddle and out her back in her cot... Repeat ... For just over an hour... Then she went to sleep. Second night it was half an hour, third night no wake ups...

Fwiw I don't think I am a nasty person or anything and my babies (eldest now 3) don't appear to have been scarred for life by these couple of nights where they cried it out.... Good luck.

I stopped changing them in the night at about 3 months or so (i think?) unless they have done a poo. I always change if I can smell they've done a poo but that is rare.

[BornOfFrustration]

I did it last week. Said I never would but something had to give because she was an every 90 minute waker wanting boob or foot tickles to get back to sleep. I'd had 19 months of no more than an hours sleep.at.a.time and couldn't take it any more.

I started it from nap time and she was really angry, gritting her teeth and throwing everything she could get her hands on. She carried on until the 6 minute point then gave up and went to sleep.

That night she complained going up the stairs but didn't cry and slept through the night. The second night she fell asleep on the sofa while I was putting her sleeping bag on. A week on she's perfectly happy to go to bed, shouts "bye!" as I leave the room and has a giggle.

I think she quite enjoys the new routine of dinner, bath, weetabix, story with DH, sleeping bag, boob, story with me, water and bed. She knows what's coming and likes to boss us around.

Sorry, that was quite long! Good luck if you give it a try, its not for everyone and I thought it wasn't for me but I couldn't go on like that any more.

[Andcake]

Sorry to hijack thread but can anyone tell me how it works with an older baby. I have tried staying in room with ds 14 months just with hand on tummy ( he hasn't been fed at night since 6 mo) but he has managed to cry like that for over an hour until I gave in and cuddled him to sleep. He now knows how to get out his sleeping bag ( awaiting delivery of zip fronted one) if left! Which is a nightmare!

I just give in as my heart breaks when he cries in his cot I feel like the nspcc ad ( non one comes when... Cries) etc

[BornOfFrustration]

Andcake DD was / is 19 months and she took to it easily. Have you tried gradual withdrawal if CC isn't for you? Didn't work for us, we gave it a good go for 4 months but we couldn't get past the first stage, but give it a try if CC makes you uncomfortable. There was a good description on here but I can't find it.

[whyno]

Worked for me at 6 months. Had been really against it but was desperate. Took one really bad night but just one, he went down and slept through from then on and it's now 1.5 years later. Now think its the kindest thing to do. Good luck, be strong if you're going to do it and be prepared for a night of crying (yourself I mean).

[Andcake]

thanks - trying gradual retreat but I don't seem to ever retreat ;-(

[Steben]

Thanks for replies - unfortunately dd in question was ill yesterday with some sort of virus so I couldn't on all conscience start it so we are still in the midst of five nightly wake ups - however come the weekend as long as she is better I am braving myself. Andcake - good luck if you decide to do it you are honestly not a bad person.

[Andcake]

Didn't do the method exactly - when in room I kept hand on ds. Also left for v short amounts of time. Actually left him calm then would go back after he cried for a moment or two, spent more time in the room. Usually I cuddle him to sleep which can take anything up to an hour!
So after being put to bed at 7 he fell asleep at 10. It was awful. He slept until 5 then I did brought him in with me and I woke him at 8 as any later and nap will be ruined. Not sure what I will do tonight. Poor little mite is tired today :-(