Getting desperate now

[izzybizzybuzzybees]

Hello. Background is my son is 9.5 months old. He is now FF on neocate due to multiple allergies. He has silent reflux and is on omperazole and Gaviscon. He has only started on solids in the last 7 days as he had an oral aversion which we are slowly overcoming.

The main problem now is sleep, or lack of it. He used to be placed in cot asleep after nursing and sleep for an hour or two at most and wake screaming, nurse again, repeat all night, sometimes only 25 minutes in the cot.

We have raised his cot but in the last fortnight he has ended up cosleeping as I am going slowly mad with lack of sleep. Since moving to ff he now doesn't usually take a night feed. He won't fall asleep before 9.30pm and we cannot get him into the cot. He wakes the minute our arms are over the cot and screams hysterically. I'm at the end of my tether, I hate cosleeping as I have bladder issues and wake loads to go to loo and have to extricate myself from under him and I just don't get a good sleep. I want them to sleep in his cot!!

Help!!!

[butternutforbreakfast]

Hi izzy, we've had the screaming in cot thing. It comes and goes according to whether DS is feeling clingy or not. Only way I cd cope was to cosleep. At one point DH slept on the floor so DS cd share the bed. Otherks times I've been on the floor with DS. Can you move the cot into a sidecar arrangement? That works for some folk.

[Andcake]

I feel for you I really do. Ds hates his cot. We ended up taking the side off the cot so I can keep an arm on him to quickly quieter. Like you I often pee a lot in the night. Sometimes I get there and back without waking ds but sometimes I ave to prod DP awake to put his arm where mine was iykwim. I still get more sleep than when I was trying to get him to sleep in a cot. I've also gradually managed to leave him asleep by waiting until he is fast asleep. Being in a side car I don't have to move him just uncurl from him!

[izzybizzybuzzybees]

We could maybe take the side off the cot but again it's not ideal. I really want him just to sleep in it alone!

[butternutforbreakfast]

Try looking at it as a transitional thing - he will learn that his cot is not a scary lonely place because he can still see you close by. I think it's a big step for LO to go from sleeping with mummy to being on their own, but he'll get there.

[Andcake]

2nd seeing it as a traditional thing. Its a very western/ human thing to leave our 'little mammals' all alone. They are instinctive little things they want to be in the safest place and for ds right now its with you.
In a way (a really sometimes annoying way) - its lovely - you're his everything.
Although I'm shattered at work today after my ds deciding the last two nights were mostly 'playtime' I understand that when it comes to sleeping he doesn't know that a tiger/woolly mammoth isn't going to come and eat him. I would prefer him to grow up knowing I am there for him and I don't give in to any of that 'child is manipulating you thing'.
right more tea and cake for me to get me through my day!