Hi
Any help gratefully received for what, today at least, seem like insurmountable problems with my DS, 11 weeks old.
He is completely crap at sleeping in the day, but needs to as screams inconsolably by early afternoon if he doesn't. The only place he will reliably sleep is in a sling but he is getting heavy (over 15lb now) and I can feel that this won't be viable in a few weeks time. He may nap in the car or buggy, but usually just screams and if he does nap it's just for 30 minutes or so. I have tried putting him into cot after he's fallen asleep on me but he just wakes up.
I think a big part of the problem is that he needs to suckle to settle himself but he refuses a dummy (is ebf) and can't yet thumb suck. He sucks on my inverted little finger, and only mine. He won't take DH's. I bf to sleep in the night, but he often wakes when I put him in his cot afterwards and then wants my finger. This is fine if it's just 10 minutes or so, but is often much longer and I end up feeling desperate as I know it then won't be long before he's awake again. Which is the other issue. He sleeps ok in the first half of the night (8-12 or occasionally 1am) but after feeding at 3ish is a nightmare to settle back to sleep. Yesterday he was awake from 4:30 & still fighting sleep at 8am. I check nappy, offer boob, play Ewan the sheep, rock but he just resists all attempts. He writhes and thrashes around and cries (properly) if I do try to let him self settle. Last night, DH was up at 5 to get an early train so I put him in bed with me, but I don't want to co-sleep as DH is a very deep sleeper, rolls over a lot and likes his beer!
I have to go back to work when he's 6 months old and just feel at the moment that will be impossible. Several people have already commented that he's a 'difficult' baby and 'how will you ever be able to leave him with a childminder?'. I want to enjoy him but it's so hard. He won't be held by DH for longer than about 10 minutes and we have no family here. I just feel I don't get a break as I spend so much time in the day trying to get him to sleep. Having him in sling/walking is physically tiring too when you've only had 4-5 hours sleep. I feel so guilty for feeling like this😢 as he is healthy and gorgeous.
Can anyone help with nap/substitute finger sucking/early morning settling suggestions please? Thank you
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dribbledon · 02/05/2013 11:29
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