I'm really beginning to lose confidence :(
He's 22 weeks, going through a stormy development phase (according to wonder weeks) and also teething. We used to be able to feed, cuddle, lullaby, place in bed next to me and he'd drift off holding my hand (we co-sleep). Because I was taking him up when I went up around ten pm - but sleeping through until 9.30 ish - we decided to try bringing his bedtime earlier and just replicate what we'd do later. Previously he'd sleep in my arms and it probably wasn't the best quality sleep.
This had moderate success and sometimes I'd just bring him back down with me because I knew I could rely on him going to sleep when we went to bed proper, if you will. He probably had a regression of going back to needing a few night feeds but this was fine. I'd read up on regression, expected it and he always went back to sleep straight away.
This last week has been horrendous. Thrashing, gouging holes in his head, I have to pin his arms down to get him to be still enough to fall asleep, but as soon as I shift position to try and sleep myself, he wakes. The reliable laying him down holding hands after a feed no longer works, he's created sores in his shoulders from the thrashing in the gro bag and he's feeding every two hours through the night.
It's not the wakings, to be honest. I could cope with that fine if he went back to sleep like he used to do. It's the thrashing, extreme eye rubbing, kicking etc that I find distressing not to mention exhausting. Even though we are committed to an attachment style approach, I've experimented just observing instead of cuddling but he works himself up into hysteria. I've got him a bigger gro bag, got sleep suits with integrated scratch mitts and I'm preparing for another night of thrashing but I feel so down about it.
Sorry this is so long. If anyone has experience or advice, I'd be very grateful to hear it. Even if it's just suck it up, it doesn't last! I just want to help him. I expect him to wake up - he's still so little. But it's the thrashing that's really getting to me.
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Orenishii · 03/04/2013 19:46
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