My DD is 15 weeks and she appears to have decided that sleep in the daytime is for wimps!
If she didn't want to sleep and was happy playing, it would be pretty full on but I could cope. But she is miserable and whingy. When she gets sleep, she is an absolute angel. So I know its the sleep that's making the difference.
Now I can't even get her to sleep with 20 mins of rocking swaying patting jiggling shhing. I have back and mobility issues and as she gets heavier it is more difficult for me to do this - especially when now it doesn't seem to work! The pram used to work but today even that has failed me - took her up to my mums group and she was almost asleep but because she was awake people were talking to her and smiling (which she always responds to!) and telling me that I shouldn't try and get her to sleep. She then went into total meltdown 10 mins later and I ended up having to get a drink with another mum as I just cried because she was so unhappy. I am so tired - if she doesn't get sleep she just cries and cries and I can't put her to sleep anymore - we have tried dummy, cuddling, patting, swaying, shhhing, rocking, pram walks, bouncing, she is swaddled, it just doesn't work any more and I feel like a shit mum because she is so tired.
I have grown to hate bf because I'm just feeding all the time as she's so miserable. I am at risk of injuring myself because of all the carrying and rocking, and now it doesn't even work!
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help me - 15 weeks and will not sleep in the day!
wellieboots · 26/02/2013 06:51
Ok might not work but I have an 11-12 week old who has phases like this in the daytime...I found out she doesn't like being cuddled to sleep or held when she's tired so when I was trying to get her to sleep by rocking all she wanted to do was be put down by herself. I also found a comforter over her eyes, I stay in the room or watched the video monitor until she falls asleep and then I take it off, really works to block out visual stimulus which sends her to sleep if overtired. Our Ewan the dream sheep helped when I found out she slept well in Moses basket next to the tumble dryer in the kitchen. I also try to follow eat/play for no more than an hour/sleep as soon as the first yawn happens. My baby will not go to sleep unless in her cot or basket at home and I always put her down awake.
The most difficult thing is losing confidence in your parenting because of people in rl telling you what you should be doing, remember you still know best and know your baby better than anyone. Don't worry if it doesn't work one day, babies change their minds a lot. 
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No advice here, sorry 
but wanted you to know you're not alone. DS was exactly this way and DD appears to be following suit, exactly as you describe and with family/friends saying/doing the same. I'm watching to read the replies for tips because my back is so sore from all the bouncing in the sling I do every day, she's a very heavy baby. I go into panic mode when visiting family or having them to us because they seem to think babies need constant loud stimulation and no sleep.. I'm better at taking her back than I was with DS but I'm still too polite for my own good when it comes to setting limits. It's something I must work on because as others have said you know your baby best and what they need, it's not helpful people telling you your baby doesn't need sleep when you have to deal with the state they get into without it.
Don't forget this is a major time for growth spurts, development leaps and of course the 4 month sleep regression - I'm really hoping it's just that and there'll be some resemblance of sanity for us both just around the corner. Hope things improve for you soon 
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OP I could have written your post every time DD hit a wonder week! Please don't feel like a failure cos you're not 
and it's not your fault! I have a friend who has exactly the same problem as you with her DD, so you have lots of sympathy from me My DD wouldn't sleep anywhere other than in my arms from 10-15w, then one day decided that she didn't like to sleep on people anymore and much preferred her cot! I have tried shhh pat too and think it's a total croc, DD just gets more worked up by it. Ewan the sheep definitely helped us, but DD discovering how to suck her thumb was by far and away the biggest miracle sleep maker ever (have you tried a dummy? i never would have said that until I saw the magic of the thumb!) And I'm a total controlling cow over how long she's awake, 90mins then back to bed (maybe try 75mins at 4months though?). Never gives me any tired signs until I'm feeding her just before I'm about to put her down to sleep, then get frantic eye rubbing, so totally ignore anyone who tries to tell you your baby doesn't look tired!
You said she is feeding all the time, is that because she's trying to suck herself to sleep? if she does eventually feed to sleep that way, can you sit with her sleeping on you (opportunity to put your feet up and chill too) for a bit and avoid the wake up as you put her into the cot? Even if it's just once a day, might help her recharge a bit at least.
Does she generally not like lying down or just during the day? Babies with silent reflux often hate lying down (makes the acid come up more) and also overfeed to soothe their throats. Probably totally barking up the wrong tree there, but thought I'd mention it in case.
Also, please don't get upset about her meltdowns in public, although I know how hard that is (been there many times) they are always far worse to your ears than anyone elses!
Sorry for the long post! hope you are going OK!
Yes she does have reflux, she is on medication, sorry forgot to mention that. There are good days and horrid days. i went to the GP 7 weeks ago and told him I wasnt coping.He said I should do controlled crying and to come back if I wanted to harm mself or DD so he was a lot of help!
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