I'm so bored - in a dark room rocking / feeding to sleep

(41 Posts)
crochetcircle Sun 02-Dec-12 20:27:54

Have 3 mo dd2 who sleeps brilliantly once I get her down, but it takes hours to get her so asleep that I can put her into the cot.

I know it won't last forever and I do enjoy the cuddles, but I'm so bored spending my evenings in the dark on my iPhone, and I'm starting to get hacked off with the minute movements that wake her as I try and transfer her to bed. She's to young for sleep training, and anyway she sleeps through once she's down, so I know I should be grateful. But I'd like to watch telly/see DH/call my family once in a while.

Anyone else out there? shameless winge

Orenishii Sun 02-Dec-12 20:30:29

Not exactly the same - DS is only five weeks - but I feel your pain about the putting them down/minute movement waking them! I seem to be so heavy handed with DS, it's unreal! It's like I've lost all ability to be gentle and capable of dexterous movement!

Orenishii Sun 02-Dec-12 20:31:03

Woah, a lot of exclamation points there. This is what motherhood does to me hmm

BahSaidPaschaHumbug Sun 02-Dec-12 20:31:19

Was just about to suggest a smartphone if you have one smile. I feel your pain. DS usually sleeps through but woke at 4.47am this morning in tears, no idea why. It took me an hour, including half of it with me lying on the floor next to his cot, to get him back to sleep. I couldn't even put the phone on because as soon as he saw the light from it he was standing up in his cot, wide awake hmm. He's 2.2 and doesn't usually do this so I was a bit miffed by the time I crawled back to bed at 5.50am.

Obstreperous Sun 02-Dec-12 20:31:30

Oh god, not currently, but I will be again in about three months confused. And I remember how shit it is from last time <weeps>.

Sympathy. I bought a iPad instead of using my phone and it really helped.

Obstreperous Sun 02-Dec-12 20:33:16

Triple click reverses colours on iPhones/iPads and cuts light output dramatically.

Just saying.

crochetcircle Sun 02-Dec-12 20:37:26

I'm going in for the put-down now. She's on my shoulder so it will be infinitesimal movements towards horizontal before hitting the cot.

No doubt see you back here in five minutes angry grin

Iggly Sun 02-Dec-12 20:38:42

Haha that was me 9 months ago.

Dd is now 1 and it got easier quite quickly afterwards.

So hang in there
THIS TOO SHALL PASS

crochetcircle Sun 02-Dec-12 20:45:18

Thanks for the support. Here I am. Feeding to sleep. The vertical to horizontal is so hard to get right, so going for her falling asleep horizontal instead.

This isn't cluster feeding its nibbling for comfort!!! Aaargh

claireb85 Sun 02-Dec-12 20:49:07

trying to get my 10 week old to sleep is impossible he is so unsettled. we swaddle and he is that fidgety he escapes it. so stressed with no sleep sad

IveBeenGoodSantaIPromise Sun 02-Dec-12 20:54:26

Crochet I am doing the exact same. In the dark feeding my 3 month old dd to sleep. Really wish I was watching X factor and having a glass of vino with dh but hey ho the cuddles are lovely!! It does all seem endless though. I bathed her at 7 and been here ever since!!

Obstreperous Sun 02-Dec-12 20:55:25

We took off one side of the cot, stuck it against our bed and I learnt to perfect the art of feeding to sleep (both lying down) and then ninja-rolling away sloooooowly.

crochetcircle Sun 02-Dec-12 20:58:23

Hi ivebeengood - I've been here since 6:30, there's so much else I could be doing too!!!

Startail Sun 02-Dec-12 20:58:47

you can watch telly that's what subtitles are for.

crochetcircle Sun 02-Dec-12 20:59:53

Hi obstreporous it's a great idea, and I'd like to try that too. We're moving house on Friday, do I'm planning to reconfigure the bedroom then.

What do you do about winding?

Tooodlepip Sun 02-Dec-12 21:00:54

yep been doing alot of that lately, I mean it just doesn't make sense, my 12 week old only naps half an hour at a time during the day so you would think it would be clever to stay asleep once he has been rocked and fed to sleep for ages hmm apparently not

I feel for you and I am begining to worry about being blind in my old age from all of my iphone usage in the dark wink and its so boring picking it up again and again but its all I have right now so feeling for you smile

isn't the waking up to play during the night the next phase wink I despair

crochetcircle Sun 02-Dec-12 21:00:57

Thanks iggly I know it won't last forever!

But how much longer????

Orenishii Sun 02-Dec-12 21:04:15

I just wish i could perfect the art of typing, scrolling, enjoying a smart phone while bfing obstreperous! I'm not totally confident - or comfortable! - breastfeeding yet so sit hunched over and scrolling long after i've read the page sad

crochetcircle Sun 02-Dec-12 21:04:20

Hi toodlepip yep, that's the worst thing about second/subsequent babies! You know what's next It's the 4 months sleep regression I'm dreading, although obviously I've avoided all the quotes bad sleep habits I created in dd1... <pops dummy / boob back in dd2's mouth and runs away to weep into my well thumbed copy of ncss>

crochetcircle Sun 02-Dec-12 21:29:35

I think it's possible that she's NOT TIRED!!!

Iggly Sun 02-Dec-12 21:57:10

Well about 3 months I realised she wanted to be asleep by 6 so did bedtime earlier and she settled faster.

By 4 months I could put her down quicker.

By 6omths I had a proper evening (vs running up and down to resettle)

Like her big brother she has silent reflux/food intolerances whichade OT harder for her to settle, especially of she has wind.

Tooodlepip Sun 02-Dec-12 22:55:27

Your giving me some hope iggly grin although each day sometimes feels like a year shock on we go

crochetcircle Sun 02-Dec-12 23:22:15

iggly what time did you start settling her if she went to bed at 6? I haven't tried that (partly because I'm worried I'd then be sat in the dark for potentially four hours not three!

I think I need to restrict afternoon sleep. She napped for 3 hours til 5 tonight. Maybe she just wasn't tired...

Iggly Mon 03-Dec-12 02:06:40

Started feeding at half 5 with no napping after 3.30pm.

I've aged about 70 years!

Iggly Mon 03-Dec-12 02:08:38

Oh and 6pm bedtime didn't last long (thankfully as tricky with older one!) from 4/5 months I pushed it back.

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