14 month old hates sleeping and 6 week old tried so many routines and still they won't sleep at night!

[emmawill]

Hi,

I still can't get my 14 month old dd to sleep through the night, she hates going in her cot and screams like a banshi if she wakes & realises she's in it. She won't settle again so she ends up in bed with us, very happy then until she wakes and realises she's hungry and screams the place down until she gets a bottle. When I say she screams I mean she really screams I had to pop out and could hear her from outside the house quite away away, so I don't really want to try controlled crying as we end up waking up our neighbours who aren't the most friendest at the best of time!!! She is also still in our room as she hates being alone & will scream her head off if we try & put her in her own room. Our 6 week old is also in the same room with us of course, and when its not one its the other and they set each other off.

My dh is incredibilty good at getting up with them but he's either a zombie a work all day or I am at home and my dd and ds are wide awake.

Any ideas? We really need to nip this in the bud asap.

[nannyme]

Would you be interested in my proposition under the sleepless family needed thread?

Not sure if you are in or near London though - or even keen!

[emmawill]

Yes but I live in Kent about an hour from London.

[nannyme]

Hi there

Kent would be perfect - I myself am in Bromley, Kent.

Filming needs to happen on Sunday pm and to be in the studio on Tuesday 21st MArch.

If these dates are possible for you please do give me a call to discuss so that if possible I can pass your details to the production company. You can reach me 07845 218635 but I would be happy to call you if you could email me your number to [email protected]

I look forward to hearing from you.

Aimie Turner

[MummyPig]

you might find The No Cry Sleep Solution by Elizabeth Pantley useful. I have her toddlers and preschoolers book and it's been good.

[gothicmama]

try tobe calm an drelaxed try finding something special fo r14mth to go to sleep with also try letting her play in cot make it a friendly place not a place where she feels abandoned perhaps put cot in your room if tehre is room until she is used to it

[emmawill]

Thanks nannyme I'll get back to you on that. Is that a book mummypig? That's the problem gothicma she still is in the same room as us so our 6 week old and are bedroom is not big enough for the 4 of us!!!! She also is quite happy playing in her cot its just sleeping, espically if she thinks she's alone not as she ever has been!!

[MummyPig]

Yes, here's the \link{http://www.amazon.co.uk/exec/obidos/ASIN/0071444912/qid=1142436341/sr=8-2/ref=sr_8_xs_ap_i2_xgl/202-0991355-0681449\amazon.co.uk?tag=mumsnet&ascsubtag=mnforum-21 link}. I really think her ideas are great, and she deals with moving kids into their own bed or own room, 'night time visitations', nightmares, early waking and all sorts. Have started to use her ideas with both our dear boys, who would happily sleep all night in our bed if allowed to. Ds2 (20 months) now has no problems going to sleep in his own bed in his own little room. He does usually come into our bed at some point but then he has reflux and still needs to feed at night. I know what it's like with two of them, I don't really mind having one but with both of ours in the bed we don't have much chance to sleep - and they wake each other up early as well. Best of luck to you

[emmawill]

Thanks mummypig I have a read of that. The last couple of nights I'll tried taking my 6 week to bed at 7pm and my 14 month at 8pm, admittley when they have both fallen aswell, I know I should put them down while their awake but I have tried that sooooo many times and they just scream the house down. But anyway, then when they wake we've dealt with them upstairs and my 14 month woke 6 times during the evening and night and my 6 week old 3 times just for feeds. My 14 month old still seems to need her night feed and I have been very interested in threads that have talked about their children being diagnoised with reflux, do you think I should ask my health visitor about this, or do you reckon that it's just a habit? We have tried diluted the milk or just offering water but she knows and will not be happy .