A typical mumsnet debate???

[tiktok]

Anyone recognise the shape of a thread (I am omitting details)

OP: I am doing something with my child that is not what planned to do, but it is something I have ended up doing because of circumstances. Now, I feel like a rubbish mother because it is not what other people say I ought to do. Please, is there anyone with experience who can tell me it's ok to be doing this?

Various posters: Yes, it's fine, I did this and my kids are wonderful and everything in my garden is rosy. Don't listen to people who tell you not to do this thing.

Other various posters: What you do is your own business, and of course you are not rubbish, and many people have been in that situation. But you should know that if you continue doing what you are doing, XYZ might happen. If you are fine about XYZ happening, then of course that's ok. But from your post, it appears as if XYZ is not what you wanted to happen.

Other other various posters: Bish Bash Bosh! The OP doesn't want to know all that! She wants fluffy kittens and lovely stuff! You are all very smug! Bish Bash Bosh! And anyway, XYZ didn't happen to me!

Other various posters again: But the OP is not the only one reading this - she needs to know about XYZ, and so do other people who come on here and lurk, now and in the future.


Other other other various posters: You are being horrible to the OP - she wants fluffy kittens and starlight, with added chocolate! And sugar sprinkles!

OP: some of you are horrible, and I didn't want this horrible argument....it's made me feel worse.

Other various posters again: oh dear....this is the internet and these things happen. Soz.

Other other other various posters : See what you have done with your decision to withhold the fluffyness?? Yah boo nasty smug people !

[Enid]

yes

but tiktok you accused me of trolling when I said that formula was rubbish (ok a bit strong but not to different to what you were saying on that thread) so I don't feel best disposed towards you

[WideWebWitch]

lol at fluffy kittens!

[expatinscotland]

Typical:

OP: Am I being unreasonable

First 20 posters: No, never!

1 or 2 posters: Yes, you are.

OP and posse of some of the first 20 posters: How dare you disagree! You bully!

Next 500 posts: MN is full of cliques and bullies.

[nailpolish]

YES XYZ might happen, but if theres no other choice is it wise to rub that persons face in it

[tiktok]

Enid, I can't remember saying you were trolling, sorry, but I have never said, nor do I think, that formula is rubbish, and I certainly have not said anything that would make anyone think anywhere I would use that term or think it.

Fio, thanks for agreeing I was not lecturing - it always pays to read the whole thread

I agree - sometimes debates shd move to another thread. I think I will suggest this in future.

I don't think anyone suggested on that other thread that the OP was not normal, BTW

[tiktok]

LOL at expat

NP - no one rubbed her face in it, FGS!

Don;t tell me - you only skim read

[nailpolish]

expat thats rubbish, esp in ref to the thread

[tiktok]

And NP - she certainly did have a choice....that's the point of sharing the information, so people can act on it if they choose to.

[nailpolish]

er no actually i read the whole thread

hence why i am so fucked off

[expatinscotland]

I don't know what this thread is in reference, too, naily, except to typical 'debate', which I took to mean those threads that didn't quite start out as a debate but sort of spun out of control.

Given that tiktok is the OP here, however, I'm going to assume it's a breast v. bottle thread?

[nailpolish]

tiktok is referring to a particular thread

[tiktok]

If you read the whole thread, then, NP, you will be able to tell me when the OP had her 'face rubbed into it' - into what, I am not sure, since formula was not especially villified...

[Cashncarry]

I'm afraid I'm not really getting the point of this thread so I'm a bit - would someone link to the thread you're all referring to?

[tiktok]

Yes, I am inspired by a particular thread, but I have seem it happen elsewhere and in other folders!

[Wotz]

expatinscotland
I do agree.
I don't see the point of AIBU threads.
Never tread on one without your hard tin hat on, while drinking in the pub.

[tiktok]

cash - I really wanted to talk generally about debates

[expatinscotland]

Sorry for the hijack, but Fio, I'm still laughing at your line, 'Then they can go and shit somewhere else.'

Haahaahaahaaa.

[FoghornLeghorn]

Me too expat - was v. funnny