Husband and me in different rooms : ((

(38 Posts)
frettingmum Wed 17-Jul-13 00:16:51

Hi there,

Blame pregnancy but my brain has turned to mush and I can't make simple decisions anymore!!

We go on holiday this week and have just found out that the rooms only have a shower. My children are aged 2,4,6,8 and have never had a shower. The hotel has offered us a suite which is supposed to be wow factor with a bath and jacuzzi with living room and double the size of normal rooms. But it's on the next floor up. As a large family we have to have two rooms anyway. But we can't afford two suites.

So.....our choice is have two rooms together which are quite cramped and with no bath. But hubby would only be next door as opposed to on floor above. Or have a suite and a room on floor below. Hubby would just use it for sleeping in and would have to carry one of the children down with him when they are asleep.

I'm not so worried about us being in different beds as we have been playing musical beds for months now. But I'm not sure if I want us to be in different floors. Next door is another thing. Also, unpacking and dressing will be a nightmare. But then we get a huge room with a living room and a bath not a shower and would just be apart for sleeping.

See, my brain is not working anymore. Hence my turning to strangers with the classic 'what would you do?'

Even if they've never had a shower, why can't they start on holiday? There's a first time for everything. If you don't make a huge issue of it, I'm sure your DC will enjoy it. It's perfectly normal for children to have showers.

Rummikub Wed 17-Jul-13 00:25:45

Suite I think. More room to breath, etc. the suite sounds bliss! Your hubby will not be far away. You could take it in turns to be with the kids? Though I think I'd still stick with the suitegrin

NatashaBee Wed 17-Jul-13 00:27:21

I see what you mean about it being easier to be next door. How much time will you be spending in the hotel though? If you'll be out for most of the day and only coming back to sleep, I'd take the suite.

piprabbit Wed 17-Jul-13 00:32:07

I'd be tempted to just tell the DCs that showers are what happen on holiday and have some fun teaching them once you get there.

quoteunquote Wed 17-Jul-13 00:35:19

You can take it in turns to have the lower room, and a good nights sleep, handy for an afternoon nap, for the one who didn't get a good night sleep.

Can't you ask for a travel cot to be added to the suite, then there will be no carrying of children.

and take two short wave walkie talkies, then you can contact each other when ever you want instantly, we bought ours in pairs as the ones we have had double charging bases, very handy better than mobiles in areas without coverage, I only mention them as we used them when staying in a very large country house and the children's guest room was at the opposite end of building to ours,

ours you can leave open, so the person stuck with the children could be heard by the separated parent, long range baby monitor.

something like these, loads out there, I use them to keep track of wandering children.

www.ebay.co.uk/itm/Cobra-MT115-4-Handheld-Walkie-Talkies-Quad-Pack-Intercom-8-Channel-5KM-Europe-UK-/271226717874?pt=UK_ConsumerElectronics_SpecialistRadioEquipment_SM&hash=item3f265f46b2

or you could see if you can get the children to take showers.

Assuming the suite has two bedrooms could you not ask for a roll away extra bed in each bedroom and use the suite for all of you?

frettingmum Wed 17-Jul-13 00:54:08

Thanks for all these wonderful replies. Just what I need at the moment. I think my husband wants to go for the different floors. His excuse is the living room space and jacuzzi but I wouldn't be surprised if it was to get away from me at the moment : ))). The walkie talkie idea is fab!!! And there is only one bedroom which accommodates only three people although I reckon they could be persuaded to add a cot. That means I get lumbered with four children who all sleep badly and my husband gets his own room. Hmmm.

frettingmum Wed 17-Jul-13 00:56:30

See, I can't even count anymore! I would obviously have to have two in my bed with me, one on the camp bed and one in the travel cot (often have two in my bed anyway so that's nothing new). And then husband gets to kick off shoes, relax on bed with a beer and watch tv : ///

Rummikub Wed 17-Jul-13 01:01:57

Swap alternate nights if your not getting sleep with 2 wrigglers in your bed.

If you really want 2 rooms, then showers are quick, fun and easy for kids. Chuck em in, turn on shower, leave, add shampoo, rinse, done grin.

I worried about this too, but it was easy, even with toddler. Think I might have showered with toddler 1st time.

Have a lovely lovely holiday x

Rummikub Wed 17-Jul-13 01:02:36

Tho personally I'd still opt for suite grin

deXavia Wed 17-Jul-13 04:15:02

Go for the suite for the extra room. And take turns at night - do not give in to any attempts to negotiate on this wink

ChippingInHopHopHop Wed 17-Jul-13 04:33:41

Why is it that you get the kids and he gets the other room? Are they not his kids too? hmm

Phone the hotel again and push to see what they can do.

There's absolutely no reason your kids can't go in the shower though.

frettingmum Wed 17-Jul-13 08:59:21

Thanks for the helpful posts. We're going to go for the suite and room on floor below. It will be good to have the extra space and the bath. Whichever way we go, hubby and me will be in different rooms to sleep for the first time : ((. Feels a bit sad. Has anyone else done this and how did you manage to make sure you had some quality time together on your own. Or is this impossible and to be accepted? Thanks for posting. You have really helped.

ShoeWhore Wed 17-Jul-13 10:44:33

Honestly I'd get the kids to shower! Would the hotel provide a baby bath as a backup plan for the youngest? We did that on hols once and just filled the bath up in the bottom of the shower when ds3 was also 2. It was fine for him to sit/stand in while we washed him. (You could also do the same thing with a small inflatable boat) The older ones would be fine in the shower surely?

Might be worth asking the hotel if the shower can be used hand held, that is definitely easier with a little one to start with.

If you do go for the suite then surely you get at least half of the nights off in the second room, being a pregnant woman and all that. I'd try and arrange the packing so one case is mainly for the second room. Either that or agree the second room is literally only for sleeping and keep all the clothes in the suite.

Rummikub Wed 17-Jul-13 10:45:54

Once the kids are asleep, have a jacuzzi?

SanityClause Wed 17-Jul-13 10:54:47

In future, book a villa or large apartment.

It's so much easier with young children. You can put them down for a nap when it suits you, feed them when it suits you, and cater for their current food fads.

And you can arrange the bedrooms to suit your family, without having to worry about having an adult in each room.

I know it doesn't help with your current problem, but, seriously, do consider it for the next few years.

frettingmum Wed 17-Jul-13 11:11:46

If I'm totally honest the suite will suit our needs better for many factors as well as the bath. It's got the separate living room for chilling out in the day rather than sitting on the beds. It will also be useful for when the kids are in bed. It's 50sqm as opposed to 27sqm for the normal rooms. So that will work great. It's literally just the sleeping issue away from hubby. Although that often happens at the moment a lot anyway because the 2 year old is still in with me and keeps him awake. I think we'd just be too cooped up in the room as there would also be a sofa bed permanently down.

If I'm honest again, I don't mind too much hubby sleeping down the corridor. But somehow it bothers me because no one else seems to do this and it seems like it might not be too healthy for us. Having said that, with four kids and me pregnant romance is far from the cards.

Anyone else sleep in different rooms on holiday to their partner?

We did try a villa but I hated it. I spent the whole two weeks cleaning, cooking, washing and whittling. We were always too tired to go and find entertainment so might as well have been at home. We're useless at self catering : ((

Rummikub Wed 17-Jul-13 11:22:01

It's not weird or unusual I'm sure. It's a practical solution.

Alibabaandthe40nappies Wed 17-Jul-13 11:27:20

Next time look for a hotel with interconnecting rooms. My parents always did this when we were little, them in one room and all of us in the one next door.

The shower thing is a red herring, kids love showers.

Why were you doing all the work when you were in the villa? Surely 50/50 when there are two of you?

YoniBottsBumgina Wed 17-Jul-13 11:30:10

I think it is quite normal when you have too many children to fit in one hotel room and they are not old enough to supervise themselves. Once the eldest is a bit older you'll be able to let them have a room of their own and you will be able to be in together again smile Or you could look at holiday lets rather than hotels, as it seems to be hotels where you have the problem of "family rooms" etc and children not being allowed in a room on their own.

I've definitely seen people on MN before saying that they do this, anyway.

LIZS Wed 17-Jul-13 11:34:51

We have similar dilemma but at least our dc are older. So far 2 rooms booked as that was the only option online but hotel cannot guarantee they will be adjacent, just on same floor, and there are no interconnecting rooms. We may be able to have a family room instead but that probably means no floor space and fold up beds ! Think we may just have to take a view when we get there.

frettingmum Wed 17-Jul-13 11:53:31

Thanks everyone. Just had a really helpful chat with the hotel manager. They have two really nice sea view rooms which connect inside. Only got a shower but she said they have a lovely view and we wouldn't be disappointed. The other option was a room across from the suite but she said the view was onto a main road and busy : //.

So we lose the bath and the living room area. But we gain two really nice rooms and connected. We'll use one room for living mainly and chuck the kids all in the one next door.

Been lucky because she said there were only two connected sea view rooms. Really happy with the solution although I know I'll be itching to go and have a nosy at the suite ; ))))

quoteunquote Wed 17-Jul-13 13:57:43

Anyone else sleep in different rooms on holiday to their partner?

well I make my family camp one field over from me on the group camp we do each year, but then I make everyone camp in a different field from me.

DoubleMum Fri 19-Jul-13 11:12:21

Connecting rooms definitely the way to go. smile
I'm sure the DCs will be fine with a shower, but something I've done before with a baby is to take a little blow up paddling pool/baby bath and stick it at the bottom of the shower.

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