Anyone else really pleased with their child's allocated school - BUT knows their child won't be as happy and has to break it to them later today?

[LoveMyGirls]

I put dd's choice as 1st choice (because it's closer to home, has better value added and because she thought her friends were going there and I want her to be happy)

she hasn't got in, the 2nd choice is a better school (best reputation, best area, best ofsted report) so I'm very happy and proud and really think she will do well.

Dd will not be so happy.

Any words of encouragement? or just want to come and shout from the roof tops you are happy with your child's school too?

[creditcrunched]

I think you should say exactly what you stated in your post "the 2nd choice is a better school (best reputation, best area, best ofsted report) so I'm very happy and proud and really think she will do well".

[jenduff]

Feel for you - the reverse for us - DS got his first choice. His two closest friends also got their first choice - selective ex-grammar which is not the same as him - for him

[LoveMyGirls]

Thanks, good idea CC. It will be hard but they will be fine won't they, will your ds stay in touch with his friends Jen? I guess with msn and texting etc it's a lot easier to stay in touch than it was in our day.

I've just rung the school to ask for a tour so dd1 can see where she will be going and hopefully it will help her see it's a brilliant opportunity and she's very lucky.

[ClaraJo]

A word of huge encouragement on that score - DD1 and DD2 ended up at different schools. DD2 went to same school as all her primary friends and now has a circle of lovely friends, hardly any of whom she went to primary school with! She has even managed to get a load of pals from DD1's school too! Sometimes the variation can be a wonderful thing. I know the children don't see it like that at the moment, but DD1 can't wait till she changes school for 6th form now, just to mix it up a bit, and widen her circle of friends even further.

[LoveMyGirls]

It's not going well, she's distraught everything I say makes her burst into tears even more and she's angry at me even though I didn't make the decision.

I still think it's the best for her future.

[creditcrunched]

Sorry LoveMyGirls, I guess all you can really do is acknowledge that she's upset and give her support. That might be all she needs at this point in time.

I often find that when my DD is upset, she comes round much quicker if she feels her feelings are being recognised, than when I try and convince her not to be upset (does that make sense? not sure I articulated it properly!)

In the end, as ClaraJo said, it will probably be fine especially as your instinct is telling you so. It may just take time for her to feel it as well.

[OrmRenewed]

DD already knows where she is going and isn't happy about it. Not that she dislikes the school but she would dislike the idea of moving up full stop. And it doesn't help that her mates are almost all going elsewhere. I feel for her but I wasn't sending her to the other school - not in a million years. I know she'll be OK and am keeping fingers crossed that all 5 of her classmates that have applied get in so she won't be totally alone.

[LoveMyGirls]

Dd1 is happier today, I took her for a drive to the school and showed her it's in a nicer area etc I explained she would have better opportunities and that they offer exchange trips to different countries and ski trips to america etc so she's ok about it now, phew!

The next hurdle will be later when she she comes home and tells me who else is going!

[Pengimum]

Well my DS did not get into our first choice but into our second, which is a much better school academicaly. I am just relieved the whole admissiosn thing is over for now but DS is cross with me - i have mollified him a bit by putting his name down on thwewaiting list of first choice school, whilst accepting the place at second choice...by the way DS has suggested an expensive electronic gift might make him feel better and reward him for all his hard work in b getting into said school (its a Catholic school and involved both DS and I earning Holy Points.) x