Y7 daughter constantly falling out with friends

[musicposy]

My daughter is just finishing Y7. It has been the most turbulent year ever for her. When she was little she had tons of friends, never fell out with them, got on brilliantly, had always been happy and sociable. This year, though, has been a nightmare. She was the only one to go to her school but she seemed to make friends...then fell out with them and made others....then fell out again...
Her latest group of friends she has been quite close to for 2 terms now. There's been bickering but I thought it was established. But last two weeks they seem to have completely turned against her. She cries every morning and was deleting all their numbers from her mobile phone the other night(she was so irate it was almost funny, but of course, I didn't laugh in front of her!).
Will this ever settle down? She was talking about transferring to a different class, but my feeling is she will just take all her problems with her, if that makes sense.

Her younger sister is EHE (electively home educated) and I think that's made it much harder for her to settle, as DD2 came out of school just as she started secondary. She now says she is not returning in September. I am quite happy to EHE her for a year or two and send her back when they are all more mature, but school thinks she should stay and work out the problems. I can see the logic in that, but i wonder if a year out would give her some breathing space - and my nerves can't stand another year like this one has been!

I am fairly sure that most people on her will say school and most people on home ed will say home but I still thought it was worth getting people's views. We are seeing the head of year tomorrow morning (last day of term, poor him) and I'm just not sure what to say. Of course, he is against us EHEing her.

[ivykaty44]

hormones - they are so turbulant through y7 and this is very common.

[Whizzz]

I work in secondary & this is very common! There is nothing worse than girls bickering amongst each other. We always have 'I don't want to sit next to X', 'Y is telling everyone I am nasty', 'Z was being nasty on MSN' etc etc - these things usually nlow over as quickly as they start. I guess its all part of growing up!

[musicposy]

BTW, it's an all girls school and i wonder if that makes it 20 times worse!
She's definitely VERY hormonal

[cory]

Very likely it being a girls' school does make it slightly worse (no indifferent boys to dilute the drama), but the hormones would be there in any case. I would give her a little longer and see if she settles down.

[MaureenMLove]

Very normal for girls to constantly bicker. DD is right now laughing and giggling with the same girl that aparently hated her on Tuesday!

[windygalestoday]

my middle ds is in year 7 and the fone is constantly ringing for him -its all girls and boys who are meeting up, but certain girls wont hang around with each other.

its all v confusing says ds cos as soon as you sort it out theyre friends again.