My dd is 12. All her life she has reacted to being over tired or stressed by getting headaches and sometimes stomach aches as well. We have always been pretty matter of fact about it "Oh, dear, it's happened again, Never mind, it's just the way you are - here's a painkiller, now carry on" sort of approach. The last two weeks have been incredibly busy for her - parents evenings, concerts, plays - all the usual coming up to the end of term stuff.
Last Wednesday evening, she started a head/tummy ache and it was still there on Thursday morning. She was obviously shattered, so I let her have the day off. ~Same on Friday - so I thought she could have Friday as well. By Friday evening she was recovered enough to go to Scouts - and she was fine over the weekend - until about 5.00 on Sunday when the headache/tummyache came back. She had an early night, but it was still there this morning.This time I made her go to school - I said that if it got worse, I would come and collect her, but she wasn't having another day off. Last night I did suggest to her that it was a bit strange that she was fine over the weekend and the prospect of school made it come back, but she is adamant that she is happy at school and there are no problems. She is doing very well - was delighted with her report and her parents evening and she seems to have plenty of friends. If there is a problem at school she's hiding it well.
She is a worrier, and very conscientious naturally a very hard worker, so she is inclined to overdo things. I'm sure the symptoms are real, but are psychosomatic. How far should I 'indulge" them, do you think? They never seem to happen before anything like a party, or something she really really loves, like riding. Funny, that!
She thinks I'm the meanest mum in the world today - but I'm almost sure that I was right to make her go to school. Any thoughts, anyone?
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seeker · 14/07/2008 10:54
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