Hi
My stepdaughter is in Year 9, and she came home with a tale the other day that leaves me worried and confused as to whether I should be doing something.
A girl in her class (whom I believe comes from Azerbeijan) has been telling the other girls that she got married during the half-term break, to a man in his 30's. The other girls then reportedly teased her along the lines of "how are you going to be able to do your school work when you are going to be popping out babies?", to which she apparantly replies that her husband is rich and will employ nannies. My stepdaughter specifically asked her about the wedding and whether she had a nice dress for it, to which she replied that she did.
Obviously this worries me deeply. On so many levels. I am of course worried for the girl herself. Is she being forced into something? Or is she making up stories for some reason? If so, why? But I am also worried about the message it is giving to my stepdaughter and the other girls. Of course she cannot really be married at 14, but what does she really mean? And what are the other girls making of such a statement? My stepdaughter seemed to just accept that such a situation may be normal in other cultures and so didn't question it much: she told it to me more as a point of interest rather than a concern. I was horrified by this. When I started going on about child abuse and women's rights she looked completely baffled and said "whatever". To let this girl continue to say she is married and to let the other girls think that this is somehow aceptable and normal is to my mind totally unacceptable.
What would others do? Should I be contacting someone at the school? Or is this none of my business? Should I assume that the school already knows all about this girl's situation (it is a very small private school which sems to pride itself on knowing all the girls individually, so should I just keep my nose out?)
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14 year old at school saying she is married: what would you do?
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Nicola63 · 28/02/2007 12:13
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