My son started yr 7 almost two weeks ago. On the first day he said he felt a bit excluded as there is quite a big clique of boys who went to the same primary and he felt cold-shouldered. Since then, he seems to be on good terms with most of the boys in his form individually, but he told me tonight that he hasn't really made any friends, and feels a bit excluded still. For example, today they were all hanging round outside a classroom waiting for the teacher and ds made some innocuous remark. He said they all totally ignored him and he wandered off and stood by himself. Also at lunchtimes, he says he just has to find the nearest available seat, usually with people who aren't even in his year, and I'm sure that what's supposed to happen is that little groups of his form stick together on individual tables. He seems friendly with several other boys who aren't in the clique, and I suggested that if he's sitting next to someone nice in the lesson just before lunch, he says "lets get lunch together" or something, but he's quite resistant, saying the school's so big and lunch so chaotic that it's not gonna happen. He says he's really making an effort at making conversation with people. This all sounds odd to me because at primary he was always the one everyone wanted to sit next to on school trips, the one they shouted for at sports day etc. Altho' he's academic (it's a top bucks grammar), he's not the bespectacled nerdy type. He's mixed race, brill drummer, good at martial arts etc. I don't know if there's anything anyone can do, other than him, but I needed to get this off my chest as it's really starting to upset me. I have suggested that he invites a friend for tea, to which the response of course is "I haven't got any friends". AAAAARRRRRGGGGGHHHH
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Majorca ·
18/09/2006 22:23
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