What do your secondary aged children do once home from school?

[greeneggsandjam]

Mine seems to just go to sleep almost straight away, in full uniform. Perhaps having eaten something first and left bowls/plates/cups on floor in living room. Sleeps mainly in livingroom though occasionally in bedroom which is a permanent state. I arrive home to said mess with a good supply of wires around the floor from chargers etc. No matter how many times I complain it never changed. This lasts a good few hours if allowed.

[IHaveBrilloHair]

Pretty much the same thing, it winds me up, but I used to do it too.
I do dinner at around 7, she's awake by then, and after that will do shower and homework.

[Kim82]

Day either goes straight to the park til about 7pm in his uniform and gets it bloody filthy or he comes home, goes straight to his room and faffs on his phone or xbox

[thornrose]

My dd goes straight to her room and onto/into bed with laptop or iPod (in full uniform. ) Sometimes she falls asleep for a bit.

I wish she'd change out of her uniform but I've given up on that.

She 'wakes up' about 7pm and gets a bit more communicative then disappears again.

[bigTillyMint]

Depends. Sometimes they don't come straight home, but if they do, loo stop and then something to eat and chilling in front of the TV with gadgets in hand or up in room in front of laptop. Sometimes DD sleeps. DS doesn't!

Obviously NOT doing homework!

[exexpat]

'Chills out', i.e. goes on the computer and does facebook/youtube/soundcloud/amazon instant videos etc. And eats any carbohydrates he can find in the house.

[greeneggsandjam]

They are all the same then! At least some of you have children who do homework after dinner. Mine just drags himself to the tale to eat (if he can be bothered) then slopes off again to do nothing then miraculously comes back to life for around 9 or 10pm to watch tv which is when I start complaining that if he hadn't slept earlier he would be read y for bed now and therefore be able to get up at a reasonable time for school. I then generally get asked how long Im going to be in the livingroom as he would like to watch tv without me!

[bigTillyMint]

Well they should be doing homework after dinner...

Yes, the bedtime thing is a complete pain - mine "can't get to sleep" till after 11, often after 12. And then they can't wake up in the morning, especially DD. They do go up by 11 at the latest, but DH and I are so tired by then and have to get up about 6.30am that we just can't supervise them any more by then.

[IHaveBrilloHair]

Yes, dd whinges that I should be going to bed at around 10, which really means she wants the telly to herself.

[greeneggsandjam]

I feel slightly better now!

[VampireSquid]

Depends, DD usually hangs out with friends until about 7-8 (she's 14) and then will come home, shower (now that it's summer) and change into something comfortable. Bed at 10. Does homework between then and changing, she'll also maybe have a snack and then have about 30mins online. If not with friends, she comes home, showers, changes, has a snack. Does homework. If it's a lot, she'll have a break and she watches old episodes of TV shows (vampire diaries etc;) then she will moan that EVERYONE else goes to bed at about midnight and THEY'RE fine, so why not her?

DS comes home, changes and moans at me, does a bit of homework and has dinner. He then might be nice and actually talk to us for once (he normally grunts at us...) but more usually will just spend the rest of the evening on the laptop.

As long as they're fed, go to bed and have finished their homework, I'm not that involved tbh.

[IHaveBrilloHair]

I don't enforce bedtime, it can be 7pm, or 2am, so long as she gets up for school.
I don't ban screens or turn off the wifi either, but we only have one telly.

[CornflakeMum]

Comes home.
Eats visible food.
Checks email/instagram etc until about 5 pm
Does homework
Eats dinner with us
Finishes homework
Plays xbox/ games / watches TV

On days they have after school activities it all gets squished up and they tend to miss out some of the social media stuff.
Nearly always have some wind down time before bed though.

[Wigglykitten]

DS 12 Comes home, gets changed, has snack, goes out to meet mates at field or river, home at 6, dinner, homework, Xbox or TV or PC or trampoline or lego, then bed by 9:30. He wakes up at 6:30 every day (no alarm, just an early riser) and never ever has a nap. He's only just hitting puberty though, so I expect things might change pretty soon.

[badasahatter]

Mine is 13, Y8. She comes in from school, grunts hello, disappears into her bedroom, comes down for a snack/ice lolly if it's hot, returns to her lair and comes down again at meal time.

Then she makes us watch insane tv programmes, flicks (oh God how she flicks) through the music channels over and over and over again, yelling about how the girls should get some more clothes on and decrying the state of post X-Factor Britain.

I assume she's done her homework before she comes down for dinner, cos her teachers always say she's good at getting her homework in on time.

She's a bit antisocial, but I always get a hug and a kiss before bed. I figure I can't ask for more than that.

[IHaveBrilloHair]

Haha, I love, 'eats visible food'.
That means crisps or ham right?
Apparently nothing else is food when dd wants a snack, she will eat cereal, but only if she is about to die of starvation.
She might eat a cracker, but she will tell me what a hardship it is.

[Shockers]

I have two, one of each gender. They play football in the garden with the dog if it's not heaving down. If they're in, they play board or card games, do homework, then watch Big Bang Theory. Occasionally, they go to the skate park or to the river for a swim.

Tonight, DS had a cricket match, DD made a bracelet for her teacher. They are currently moving the furniture around in DS's bedroom... I am helping in short bursts .

DD has SN, so we try to encourage practical or physical activities. It works for us. They are 14 & 15 and are close friends, but at separate schools as DD attends a special school.

[Levantine]

My children are younger but I used to go to sleep on the sofa when I got back from school. In my uniform, having made some snacks

[MrsSquirrel]

Mine has a snack, then watches crap TV while simultaneously looking at Facebook/Instagram.

Homework before dinner means she is panicking about some deadline. Normally it's done after dinner, in between bouts of Facebook.

[TheFirstOfHerName]

DS2 (12):
Shower.
Music practice.
Homework.
Pack bag for next day.
Minecraft.
Dinner.
More Minecraft.

DS1 (14):
Has a cup of tea.
Starts homework.
Often makes dinner.
Finishes homework.
Shower.
Watches TV with me in his pyjamas.

[BackforGood]

First - go to the toilet
Second - chill - dd1 goes on Facebook, dd2 watches tele

[exexpat]

IHaveBrilloHair - yes, DS's definition of 'food' - as in 'mum, there's no food in the kitchen - is 'something instantly edible without cooking/peeling/doing anything to it' (though toasting is somehow an exception to this rule - marmite toast is definitely 'food'), so bread, bananas, apples, crisps, biscuits etc, but not pasta, noodles, rice, anything in the freezer etc etc. I am trying to work on this in the two years left before he leaves for university.

[Bunbaker]

MrsSquirell. Your daughter sounds exactly like mine. I do have to nag her to do homework though.

I am tempted not to, but she suddenly remembers at 10 o'clock that something has to be handed in the next day and the stress isn't worth it.

Not doing homework means detention, and this means I would have to pick her up from school as the school bus leaves at 3 and there arne't any more after that one - we live in a rural area. So a detention is more aggro for me.

[FreckledLeopard]

Eats, leaves wrappers and empty packets strewn across sofa, does homework whilst watching TV, Skypes her friends, goes on Instagram, insists I watch various videos on YouTube or Facebook, spends hours in shower and rarely gets to bed before 11pm. She's 13.

[greeneggsandjam]

Wow, some of you have impressive children. Thefirstofhername, do you want to swap?? Even for a short while??

[littledrummergirl]

Ds14- comes home, talks to us for a while goes to his bedroom. Has dinner with us, complains he is hungry, eats bread. Goes to bed at 930. In between this he does homework and xbox/pc talking to his friends. One night a week he does sports training.

Ds12- goes to the toilet. Comes to say hello, routine much the same as ds1 although needs reminding about homework. A lot of the time they are in differenr rooms playing xbox together!

Both seem to be doing ok and appear happy.