Hello - I hope you can help me with this please.
DD1 started at an outstanding and very over-subscribed secondary school in September. The school has a strong discipline policy and she is finding it very hard to cope with.
She is a hard-working and motivated girl who loved primary school, but is finding things to be very different at secondary school. She is very stressed about remembering everything and doesn't like being responsible for keeping her books at home.
The school does set quite a lot of homework and she is keeping on top of this but really worries about whether she has remembered to do everything. She has a planner but panics when her homework timetable says she should have homework but nothing is written in her planner. She is worried that she will get a "stage" - this is a written warning in their planner (I think 3 = a detention).
She has had about 5 days off sick - 2 were when she had a tummy bug and really was ill, but I think the others were due to feeling sick with anxiety. Being off made things worse as she wasn't sure what homework had been set.
I was called in to the school as her attendance had dropped to 85% and had a good chat with the head of year 7. She was very helpful and said she would meet weekly with DD1 and have a chat with her about getting a stage. She also suggested seeing the school counsellor, but this hasn't happened yet due to half term. She did say these settling in problems are very common, but that she will be fine.
I was hopeful that all of this would help, but DD1 has gone back to school this week after half term and is even worse. She cried herself to sleep last night and told me this morning how unhappy she is and how she hates school. I feel terrible and wonder if she should change schools, but feel that this really is the best school for her as our other options are limited. Also I think that she will still have these issues at the other schools, although their discipline may not be as harsh.
I did take her to the GP a few weeks ago who suggested Moodgym, which is an internet based CBT program, but this looks to old for her.
Does anyone have any suggestions about what I can do to help DD1 please? Thank you.
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Marmitelover55 · 30/10/2013 11:45
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