DD 14 and DS 11 have just started at a new school, large (2000+ kids), with our move to the area from abroad. Days 1 and 2 have been dire. Buddy dumped DD after lesson 1 without passing her on. They aren't on the register in any class so have to explain again and again who they are. And the kids all appear in settled friendship groups, so while they are trying to chat, break into groups, they have both, both days, come home in tears at having groups gravitate away from them. DS, normally outgoing and gregarious, spent breaktime today circling playground on his own, and then went to the boys toilets to cry. They aren't insensitive, but know literally no one there and its really hard to find a toehold. I also don't know any parents in the area, and work full time.
I emailed the transition manager last night for any handouts they gave at the transition day we couldn't attend because we weren't in the country yet, in the hope of contact names/emails but she claims there weren't any. I'd guess the official point of contact would be their class tutors, but the kids don't want to stand out any more, and frankly they have so far been so lamentable in any communication with other staff or the buddies, hard to see that putting it on paper will make it any better. The ideal would be tips on how your kids have broken into friendship groups, and ideas on timescales so I can try and manage their expectations. Grateful for any tips.
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0ntheUp · 05/09/2013 19:32
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