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Dd very low?

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sahs1969 · 09/12/2012 06:28

Hi,
Having real concerns about AD age 12 at the moment, she has been wiring notes saying how she feels, using words like lonely, sad, depressed, alone, tired and upset. Then last night she showed me her wrist as she said it was sore, she told me she's been playing with scissors at school and they had scratched her wrist....very very superficial but to me it does look like an intentional cut? The this morning on her mobile she showed me her phone and it had a comment saying" some days I wish I'd wake up and not be here", apparently something she found on BB about a young girl who recently committed suicide due to bullying at school.....now I am really concerned but just don't know where to go.....her school and I are at log a heads at the moment as they are not meeting her needs at all.....she finds the work very challenging, hates the actual school work, but does enjoy going to school and says she has fun and enjoys it?
Help? Any advice on where to turn to....please don't say senco as she is not being in the slightest bit helpful with all the other issues.
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PottedShrimp · 09/12/2012 07:17

tbh i would sit her down and have a chat to find out the root of all this. Might just be teenage angst, and she sounds like she is aksing you for help with showing you the mobile phone. She sounds like she can talk to you, so that would be the best start, then depending what she says, maybe a trip to the doc, and let the school know how she is feeling so they can keep an eye on her there. Good luck.

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Muminwestlondon · 09/12/2012 07:21

Take her to the GP. Sounds like she would benefit from counselling. The Young Minds website is also quite helpful if she could be persuaded to have a look. Locally (inner west London) we have a walk in clinic for young people, perhaps look on your local NHS Trust or council's website?

Some schools do facilitate counselling, do you have someone in charge of pastoral care at the school, like a Student Services director?

If your GP is crap, have you thought about the school psychology service? Perhaps they can help or refer her to someone that can.

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Bearandcub · 09/12/2012 07:26

Hmmm I think the notes and cut are as you think a cry for help. Speak to the GP with her about what can be done ie referrals to talking therapies etc.

Is she being bullied? Does she have many friends at the school? To be honest, and I don't have children this age, but I'd be tempted to take her out of school even if it's just till the new term.

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marriedandwreathedinholly · 09/12/2012 14:54

Dear OP how dreadful but. How brilliant year dd is confident enough in year relationship to let you know in her way. We have come through the other side of this. We went to the GP and arranged some private counseling but you cd go down the CAHMs route. We also after two years changed schools and that had a sensationalpositive impact. Be with her and love her and support her through it.

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marriedandwreathedinholly · 09/12/2012 15:01

Dear OP how dreadful but. How brilliant year dd is confident enough in year relationship to let you know in her way. We have come through the other side of this. We went to the GP and arranged some private counseling but you cd go down the CAHMs route. We also after two years changed schools and that had a sensationalpositive impact. Be with her and love her and support her through it.

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CanYouHearMe · 09/12/2012 15:25

I've just had a look at the youngminds website. Looks good. Do you think it will be ok if I use my real name to email them?

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CanYouHearMe · 09/12/2012 15:26

Sorry to jump on your thread OP, btw.

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