My ds1 seemed to be really enjoying school. He's seemingly made new friends, avoiding the people from his old school.
Yesterday was an Inset Day, and I bumped into an old acquaintance from his primary, also mooching around because of the Inset. He said, X says Ds1 is bullying B in the class, making fun of him and imitating him. B appears to be a bit of an oddball, clever but overweight and someone who says weird things and makes weird gestures.
Ds1 has mentioned him a bit, saying B was rude to me, or B behaved oddly today, or I tried to say something nice to B today and he said Leave Me Alone. He burst into tears when I mentioned that he might have been bullying B. He immediately said it was because he wanted the other boys to like him.
(Background he was "bullied"/shunned in primary by a very popular boy)
So, Ds has picked on the other boy, he has admitted it. Not necessarily full scale bullying, but teasing.
My second son has Asperger's, and Ds1 often teases him. I suspect the "bullied"/picked on child has something like Asperger's but of course I have no way of knowing.
I've told Ds1 in no uncertain terms he has to be nice to this child, never ever tease him, and toaccept a bit of bad feeling/aggression from him for now whilst making every effort not to wind him up.
Do I mention this to the teacher NOW or wait for further problems. I felt so happy that ds1 was enjoying school and was enthusiastic about his new friendship group, as he had a lot of difficulities socially in his last school. I feel so upset that he has felt to need to pick on someone else to make himself feel important, and sad for the other child too, knowing what I know about how ds2 is treated in playground at his school.
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swanriver · 23/09/2011 13:23
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