Dd1 (14) has been offered the chance to go on a school trip to South Africa as part of the netball team - the rugby team will be going as well.
The trip isn't until July 2013, so we have been given plenty of notice. However, it is going to cost £2,100 .
I have told dd that she needs to earn or save all of her spending money (I am thinking £500) and contribute £300 towards the cost of the trip. Of course, this will still mean we have to find £1,800...
We don't have to say definitely one way or another until after the Easter holidays, so I have told dd that she needs to have saved £125 by then or I will not agree for her to go. I'm trying to make her see that I need to know she is committed to saving, as I DO NOT want to be in a position of having to find the extra money for her at the last minute.
I've also told her that this trip will constitute her birthday and Christmas presents for the next two years.
She has agreed to this, and I have actually drawn up a written contract to this effect. Obviously it isn't a legal document, but dd is notorious for "misremembering" things, and trying to find loopholes in things (eg "you said birthdays and Christmases, but you didn't say which ones").
She has got very annoyed at this and gone off ranting and raving about "not trusting" her.
It's not that I don't trust her, I just don't want any ambiguity about this. I need her to realise that she needs to commit to a savings plan and keep it up.
Do you think I'm being over the top?
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brassick · 16/01/2011 21:53
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