Anyone's Mum always trying to give them lessons in domesticity??

[Pagan]

Yesterday as mine kindly offered to do my ironing for me said "watch and learn" as she was doing it!!! I'm 36, married with 2 kids and left home when I was 21 ....

[dropinthe]

I wish!

[Pruni]

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[octavia]

my mum wouldn't dream of doing that thank goodness. My mother in law once insisted I stand and watch her while she ironed my dh shirts... ...
I left her to it and went and watched telly shes never forgiven me

[BethAndHerBrood]

I'd like to see mine try!!!!!

She is to domesticity what Barbara Cartland was to subtle and tasteful!!!!

[Tommy]

Bethandherbrood - are you me?!

[BethAndHerBrood]

I don't know, Tommy, am I????!!!!!

[Tommy]

My MIL often asks if I would like her to do the ironing but the last time she did it she ironed my pants.......
My Mum on the other hand always has a laundry basket full of "to do" ironing so she's inlikely to criticise!
BandHB - she did say once "I'm not really very good at this house keeping thing..."

[Pagan]

Ah with mine it's not just ironing, it's all things domestic. I think she thinks I'm a crap housewife and feels the need to tell me what is out of place or needing done without thinking that perhaps that's the way I prefer it or that I've not had time to clean little fingerprints off a window because I've got a 6 month old and a 2 year old to chase after for much of the day.

I love her dearly but she drives me mad sometimes. When she comes to visit I just wish she'd chill out a bit and we could enjoy each others company but before she even has her coat off she's thrusting a bag in my face with stuff she has for me. She then has to go through each thing explaining what it is. All well intended and well received but 'hey mum, sit down for a minute, take your coat off, pass some niceties of the day and then do it'. I feel guilty for feeling annoyed. Other things I've not done right ...

my grass needs feeding
I need to clean the top of my bin
I shouldn't wipe the worktops with a towel
my dining table is in the wrong place
I shouldn't have flung out that book case
I don't iron enough things (like pants, towels, sheets etc.)
I don't know enough about stair gates and their safety

Sigh ....

[shhhh]

My mum does my ironing mainly because she can hear it calling her from behind the closed door! LOL.!!! I remember her trying to "teach" me to iron one day, I started on square items about 16yrs ago. She laughed the other day when I commented that I haven't moved off square items yet! BTW I HATE ironing and refuse to do it...

[Lizzylou]

Why do Moms iron pants? Or tea towels?
My MOm does my ironing and washing when she comes, despite me protesting that she shouldn't....annoys the f*ck out of me!

[madmarchhare]

FIL does it with us. Constantly on about DIY, the garden, money (DH is a financial advisor) and hoovering the other day. I wouldnt mind but he never does anything.

[madmarchhare]

Hes also not pleased that I refuse to iron DHs shirts.

[DissLocated]

My Gran (Dad's Mum) used to do that to my Mum, she'd sit in our front room tutting and picking bits off the carpet and keep up a running commentary 'you could do with running the hoover round in here, that front door wants wiping' etc etc

[sweetkitty]

My mum has just left usually I'm waiting on the comments but she said today that my white washing hanging on the line "looked very white and she wished she could get her DPs socks that white" erm Fairy and a 60 degree wash!!!

But she did tell me my duvet cover has never seen an iron, I said considering it's not going to show up the rest of the room I haven't bothered! (we are living in rented accomodation have a pile of boxes in the bedroom and the whole place is crammed full of stuff) the last thing I feel like doing is ironing.

All this from my Mum who never irons.

[shhhh]

SK LOL !! My mum also comments on our duvet..saying it needs ironing! No unless she is going to iron that as well which I very much doubt she will there is no chance I am ironing it! Only dh & I see it anyway!
I actually moaned to mum recenlt about state dh gets house in after I have cleaned it. Mums rely was " Either leave or put up with it". Gee thanks mum, like I will come to you for your sound advice again!

[shhhh]

Sorry about mistakes..Trying to type while I iron ! Haa..only joking !

[Pagan]

I'm sure my Mum thinks my first marriage broke up because I refused to iron DH's shirts on the basis that

• we were both working the same hours
  
• we earned the same amount
  
• he could do them perfectly well before I met him
  WHY THE SHOULD I???
  
  Other recent comments have included
  
• DH will go elsewhere if he's not getting it at home (referring to sex)
  
• do I trust him when he is away
  
• it's DH's car so he should have it when he wants (it's OUR car
  
  Aaaaaand just prior to going into hospital for birth of DS
  
• I should keep the freezer stocked with lovely home made stuff for DH whilst I'm in hospital. when I told her that it was but also that he was perfectly capable of going to a shop to buy food and cook it himself she replied that he couldn't trek away to the shop with DD to look after at the same time. I then pointed out that I had to do that and I was 9 months pregnant ......."But you're her mother"
  
  AAAARRRRRRRRRRRRRRGGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHHHH
  

[sweetkitty]

mothers eh? mine was trying to give 13mo DD tea today (v strong with 3 sugars???)

My top tip for never ironing a shirt is be completely useless at it, I use to iron train tracks on DPs, he complained and said he would do them (that was 8 years ago)!

[amblesidemama2003]

hello new to this understand bout mum to well, have twins mum expects you do it how she would do how you want what i do alot easier especially with kids around

[nappybaglady]

lol at mum thrusting bag at you and describing contents before she's taken coat off. Exactly what my mum does

My mum was appalled that I had a cleaner even though i was working 90 hour weeks. Love her to bits though

[Nik72]

It's amazing what I'll put up with from my mum - when I was a student she would always set too on the toilet accompanied by shrieks of "you'll catch hepatitis A if you're not careful!". We went round to my sisters house recently as she had a 2 month old baby and after ostentaciously (is that how you spell it?) cleaning her bathroom mum then started lecturing her on the importance of making sure she cooked a nice meal for her DH coming back from work! My poor sister could barely keep upright with The Baby Who Never Sleeps let alone start cooking hearty meals. My MIL would be for the high jump if she did any of this but I love my mum and at least she can laugh at herself!

[charliecat]

My mum does my ironing for me and has took to coming in and starting the dishes or mopping the floor......I have said you know just leave it its all gonna grow back in a couple of hours...and it does but she cant seem to help herself.

[Tommy]

my SIL irons her yellow dusters.....
and she's younger than me so it can't be an age thing