and I dont know how to help her.
Basically she is living with her BF and has been for 10 years. They have two boys, 4 and 2.
He works a weird shift pattern and whilst he is not working she works 15 hours a week. He looks after the children whilst she works.
Since DS2 was born she has been pretty miserable. Quite teary and not a happy bunny. I thought she might have PND but she thought not.
The past two years I have watched her slip from being a lively fun person to be around to a creature I hardly recognise now. She is so unhappy with everything in her life.
A couple of days ago she phoned me in tears. Her and BF had argued and she was heartbroken. I told her she needed to talk to him about how she is feeling but he wont talk to her.
He is busy building their family home...all spare time is spent on building work or he is playing golf, football etc.
She is upset because he doesnt even ask her if she wants a cup of tea....thats all she keeps saying..."Im unhappy and he wont even make me a cup of tea" over and over and over again!
Tonight Ive been on the phone to her for an hour because she said he wouldnt make her a cuppa because he doesnt feel he should have to, as he works 15 hour shifts and she just works for 3 hours a day.
She has told him to leave....he refuses because he wont "leave her sitting pretty in the house".
She is at the end of her tether and I dont know what to say to her anymore. DH talked with her today and she just sat sobbing.
Ive talked with her BF, who is my DH's best mate, and he said she is drinking a bottle of red wine everynight, getting drunk....cant wake up next day....ratty with the kids and he is sick of it. She denies this. I never see her being ratty with the children...she is a good mom...however he has a short fuse with the children and Ive had words before with him about this.
I feel so sorry for both of them.....their relationship is falling apart and I dont know how to help them....both have asked DH and I to help....but we dont know how.
Any ideas??
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jayzmummy · 14/07/2005 00:18
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