Think I've gone too far this time

[Mosschops30]

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[gothicmama]

tell your dh you don't want your marriage to end but that the present situation is putting you under alot of pressure at the moment.

[Mosschops30]

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[Janh]

We used to have rows just like this and my DH would react like yours, mosschops. Men are so hopeless at discussing things normally that all the things we've been brooding about and bottling up come out when there is a row and I used to say awful things to him (I'm much better at arguing than he is so would run rings round him verbally which made him madder).

Generally there would be a hideous atmosphere for a couple of days - because he wouldn't talk - and then things would simmer down and be OK again. Yours may be the same, hope so. (We're still together after 30 years! Though I have to admit that most of the concessions have been his )

Apologising just to keep the peace doesn't work but telling him what gothicmama says and starting from there, but with a huge effort from you not to slip back into the same row, might help. (Or else just leave him in peace to simmer down...or you could write him a nice letter as he doesn't want to talk...men do prefer not to as a rule!)